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Hi guys
Hi guys. Essay ahead, I guess, this is me venting for the first time ever.
I'm in my 20s, struggling to cope with adult life and Alcoholism has me bad. I've always found it incredibly difficult to talk about in person so I'm really hoping I don't feel so much cringe opening up here.
I'm frightened for both my physical and mental health from this. I start getting so much anxiety at the thought of not touching a drop even for an evening. It crept up on me so much more subtly that I didn't see what it had done to me until it was too late.
Not having anyone to talk to has meant I don't really know what I'm doing. I've tried on sheer willpower with very mixed results, and I'm just desperately hoping I can get some help here. I want a shot at a proper life, if I still can.
I'm in my 20s, struggling to cope with adult life and Alcoholism has me bad. I've always found it incredibly difficult to talk about in person so I'm really hoping I don't feel so much cringe opening up here.
I'm frightened for both my physical and mental health from this. I start getting so much anxiety at the thought of not touching a drop even for an evening. It crept up on me so much more subtly that I didn't see what it had done to me until it was too late.
Not having anyone to talk to has meant I don't really know what I'm doing. I've tried on sheer willpower with very mixed results, and I'm just desperately hoping I can get some help here. I want a shot at a proper life, if I still can.
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Welcome to SR, Nat! Glad you found us. It is easy to share here because we never judge. We all have our stories to tell and alot in common. We are great listeners and sharers of our own successes and failures. Hope you gain much from being a part of SR and that you begin to understand what alcoholism is all about. Keep posting and reading other posts.
Again, Welcome! ♡CR
Again, Welcome! ♡CR
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I got sober using SR. I just read a lot and still do everyday. I really got a lot of benefit from the AVRT threads in the secular forum. At some point I honestly accepted that I couldn't drink without unwanted consequences. Thats when it all changed for me. Good luck; you can do it.
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Originally Posted by Nat127 
I want a shot at a proper life, if I still can.
You can absolutely leave this whole nightmare behind for good, and never look back, if you want to. Whatever you do, do not let this thing continue any longer, because it can indeed destroy you.
Are you willing to give up the alcohol that is presently mortgaging your future? It's not nearly as difficult to do as you imagine.
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Hi Nat, I think most of us were scared and overwhelmed by the idea of never drinking again. I know I was. If you just take it slow, try to not think about forever but just focus on getting through each day, you will be fine.
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Welcome, Nat127. You are young. And you have great insight into your problem and the fact that you need to address it. Those are big pluses.
And, now, you have the support and advice of all of the wonderful people here at SR.
Good luck. I am glad you are here with us.
And, now, you have the support and advice of all of the wonderful people here at SR.
Good luck. I am glad you are here with us.
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Nat - it's so great to have you with us! It really helped me to talk things over here. No one judged, everyone truly understood (not like most people in our lives). Posting here is a good distraction when you're feeling anxious. It will get better as you get some sober time behind you & begin to heal.
I'd love to go back to my 20's and do what you're doing! I kept trying to manage it on my own using willpower. It never worked, so I kept drinking for many more years. By then my life was in ruins. This won't happen to you, Nat.
I'd love to go back to my 20's and do what you're doing! I kept trying to manage it on my own using willpower. It never worked, so I kept drinking for many more years. By then my life was in ruins. This won't happen to you, Nat.
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Glad you found us, and that you're realise what a lot of this boils down to - living adult life on life's terms. This can be so incredibly difficult for many of us. Alcoholics seems to be great at managing the BIG stuff. It's the everyday responsibilities that drag us down. Mostly due to a kind of distorted sense of self a lot of the time - what we should and should have to do, and how this person or that person should think of us, or treat us. And how we should and could be. All those shoulds and could take their toll. For me, a lot of recovery has been about acceptance. Of all sorts of things.
AA do an excellent little book called Living Sober which has some really good advice in. It's cheap as chips, even for a book copy, but you can also get it for Kindle. The other book that really helped me at the start of my journey was one called Monkey on my Shoulder.
Wishing you all the best for your recovery. BB
AA do an excellent little book called Living Sober which has some really good advice in. It's cheap as chips, even for a book copy, but you can also get it for Kindle. The other book that really helped me at the start of my journey was one called Monkey on my Shoulder.
Wishing you all the best for your recovery. BB
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