Day Sixteen and counting
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Day Sixteen and counting
Brief Intro.
Male, 48 years young. Married nearly twenty years. Had our ups and downs but still together.
Drank since I was around early to mid twenties I guess. Quite heavily over the past 15+ years. Mainly light beers - Coors/Budweiser plus anything available at times. Not much into spirits but did occasionally drink JD/Baileys/Bacardi etc but not really my scene.
Had a kick in the balls when I found out someone had been paying my wife more attention than I was.
Woke up a week last Monday and decided enough was enough. I realised I had more of a relationship with the bottom of a bottle than anyone else in my life.
Now I am SIXTEEN DAYS in and so proud of myself for summoning up the willpower you wouldn't believe. For me personally it's like landing on the moon. If you asked any of my friends or family they would have put their house on my me not staying on the wagon.
I am not afraid to admit I was an absolute frikin ****hole for most of this millennium.
Apologies for any offence caused with the language.
Male, 48 years young. Married nearly twenty years. Had our ups and downs but still together.
Drank since I was around early to mid twenties I guess. Quite heavily over the past 15+ years. Mainly light beers - Coors/Budweiser plus anything available at times. Not much into spirits but did occasionally drink JD/Baileys/Bacardi etc but not really my scene.
Had a kick in the balls when I found out someone had been paying my wife more attention than I was.
Woke up a week last Monday and decided enough was enough. I realised I had more of a relationship with the bottom of a bottle than anyone else in my life.
Now I am SIXTEEN DAYS in and so proud of myself for summoning up the willpower you wouldn't believe. For me personally it's like landing on the moon. If you asked any of my friends or family they would have put their house on my me not staying on the wagon.
I am not afraid to admit I was an absolute frikin ****hole for most of this millennium.
Apologies for any offence caused with the language.
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Join Date: Aug 2016
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Ah yes gotta love those moments of clarity, I thank God for mine! Where as we stay in denial a good part of the time, to the seriousness or extent of the problem, I had that lightbulb moment and made the decision to stop drinking as well!
It just gets better and better too! Im super happy for you that you are proving them all wrong but mostly that you are proving to yourself that you can have a wonderful life without the booze.
Best wishes and be blessed!
It just gets better and better too! Im super happy for you that you are proving them all wrong but mostly that you are proving to yourself that you can have a wonderful life without the booze.
Best wishes and be blessed!
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Join Date: Oct 2016
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Thanks for the comments.
I will never say never to a beer again if you know what I mean but I will give my sobriety a long long time. If I can see out this year I will be as pleased as punch.
I have done two things I needed to personally.
One was take my wife out to a restaurant and order a meal without a beer.
The other was to join a friend at a pub and order a soft drink.
Both objectives were completed.
The taking the wife out was a big turning point. Take it back prior to my sobriety I would have had a couple of cans before we left the house, one in the car en route, on prior to the meal, one during and one after.
This may shock some people but it was the norm for me.
The love I feel for my wife has shown me the way. Alcohol came between us and nearly destroyed my marraige.
Thanks again for a great forum. I would like to donate at some point if you do that sort of thing.
I will never say never to a beer again if you know what I mean but I will give my sobriety a long long time. If I can see out this year I will be as pleased as punch.
I have done two things I needed to personally.
One was take my wife out to a restaurant and order a meal without a beer.
The other was to join a friend at a pub and order a soft drink.
Both objectives were completed.
The taking the wife out was a big turning point. Take it back prior to my sobriety I would have had a couple of cans before we left the house, one in the car en route, on prior to the meal, one during and one after.
This may shock some people but it was the norm for me.
The love I feel for my wife has shown me the way. Alcohol came between us and nearly destroyed my marraige.
Thanks again for a great forum. I would like to donate at some point if you do that sort of thing.
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Glad to have you Coleman - we don't do donations, but most of us just 'pass on' the goodness we've found here and 'pay it forward' 
It;s a common caveat and one I myself uttered.
I really hope you think about this over the coming weeks months and years.
Time and again I went back to drinking, thinking I had controlled the best now because I'd been sober x amount of time.
The truth is that abstinence is not control....they are two separate things.
My relationship with alcohol is toxic - always was, always will be if I was ever to pick up again.
Once I accepted that my life began to change - for the better
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I will never say never to a beer again if you know what I mean but I will give my sobriety a long long time.
I really hope you think about this over the coming weeks months and years.
Time and again I went back to drinking, thinking I had controlled the best now because I'd been sober x amount of time.
The truth is that abstinence is not control....they are two separate things.
My relationship with alcohol is toxic - always was, always will be if I was ever to pick up again.
Once I accepted that my life began to change - for the better
D
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I am not afraid to admit I was an absolute frikin ****hole for most of this millennium.
love the honesty/ humility
and i can be a real ahole with many years of recovery too
welcome and i hope we both keep coming back!
Originally Posted by ColemanReese 
I am not afraid to admit I was an absolute frikin ****hole for most of this millennium.
love the honesty/ humility
and i can be a real ahole with many years of recovery too
welcome and i hope we both keep coming back!
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Welcome CR & Congrats on both realizing that alcohol is keeping you from being the person that you want to be AND doing something about it.
I highly encourage you to stay on the sober path. As you've found already, there are rewards for choosing sobriety. To stay sober, I suggest creating a plan for what to do instead of drinking when those moments of desire pop up.
Good luck and please keep posting with your updates.
I highly encourage you to stay on the sober path. As you've found already, there are rewards for choosing sobriety. To stay sober, I suggest creating a plan for what to do instead of drinking when those moments of desire pop up.
Good luck and please keep posting with your updates.
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