Hello again!!
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Hello again!!
Hi,
Not been on here a while, had a big relapse after a a
week of sobriety. Being sober was too much reality
too quick after years and years and years of alcohol.
On day two now. Hope it continues…
Hope everyone here is doing well.
Thanks, Nick
Not been on here a while, had a big relapse after a a
week of sobriety. Being sober was too much reality
too quick after years and years and years of alcohol.
On day two now. Hope it continues…
Hope everyone here is doing well.
Thanks, Nick
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welcome back, Nick.
it can continue if you do more than hope...don't rely on hope!
seems like you have identified the/one of the challenges: what to do about that pesky reality? or, more accurately: what to do with yourself in the real reality?
what are your thoughts ?
it can continue if you do more than hope...don't rely on hope!
seems like you have identified the/one of the challenges: what to do about that pesky reality? or, more accurately: what to do with yourself in the real reality?
what are your thoughts ?
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Originally Posted by fini 
welcome back, Nick.
it can continue if you do more than hope...don't rely on hope!
seems like you have identified the/one of the challenges: what to do about that pesky reality? or, more accurately: what to do with yourself in the real reality?
what are your thoughts ?
it can continue if you do more than hope...don't rely on hope!
seems like you have identified the/one of the challenges: what to do about that pesky reality? or, more accurately: what to do with yourself in the real reality?
what are your thoughts ?
I am not in denial. I have a major problem and I need to stop.
Tried about two months ago, it didn't work. Too many things
came to the surface during my first try at sobriety.
I now think I am better prepared to stop. Hope is shite, but it
can help...
Millions of religious people base their lives on it. I don't personally
but it works for some.
Thanks
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Hammers,
i drank for thirty-odd years. got sober at 51.
in a couple of weeks, i'll be rolling over into sober year eleven.
i had hope. and determination. and commitment.
many many times.
failed over and over.
once i added actions, daily engagement, and this was in fact my number one priority, things got better.
care to tell a bit about being better prepared? things will surface just like last time. "it" didn't work, you say...what is "it"?
i drank for thirty-odd years. got sober at 51.
in a couple of weeks, i'll be rolling over into sober year eleven.
i had hope. and determination. and commitment.
many many times.
failed over and over.
once i added actions, daily engagement, and this was in fact my number one priority, things got better.
care to tell a bit about being better prepared? things will surface just like last time. "it" didn't work, you say...what is "it"?
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Welcome back Nick. I'm fairly new here too. I've been sober over a month now and for me the first week or two were the hardest so far.
I had feelings similar to the ones you describe as reality set in and I was withdrawing. However, I can tell you things improved significantly as the days went on. It was still tough, but well worth struggling through the early days.
It may be of help to set a mini goal (plan) to start and shoot for 15 or 30 days and give yourself a chance to see the other side.
I had feelings similar to the ones you describe as reality set in and I was withdrawing. However, I can tell you things improved significantly as the days went on. It was still tough, but well worth struggling through the early days.
It may be of help to set a mini goal (plan) to start and shoot for 15 or 30 days and give yourself a chance to see the other side.
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Originally Posted by fini
Hammers,
i drank for thirty-odd years. got sober at 51.
in a couple of weeks, i'll be rolling over into sober year eleven.
i had hope. and determination. and commitment.
many many times.
failed over and over.
once i added actions, daily engagement, and this was in fact my number one priority, things got better.
care to tell a bit about being better prepared? things will surface just like last time. "it" didn't work, you say...what is "it"?
i drank for thirty-odd years. got sober at 51.
in a couple of weeks, i'll be rolling over into sober year eleven.
i had hope. and determination. and commitment.
many many times.
failed over and over.
once i added actions, daily engagement, and this was in fact my number one priority, things got better.
care to tell a bit about being better prepared? things will surface just like last time. "it" didn't work, you say...what is "it"?
the past will give you an idea.
I am a professional chef now, but I was a mechanical
engineer in the 80’s I worked in Kuwait after the first
Gulf War as Tech support to the US Navy. I saw terrible
things there that I had buried in my drunken mind for years.
It only surfaced when I stopped drinking. It was too much,
too quick. The reasons for my drunkenness. I could not
deal with that and withdrawal at the same time.
Now I think I am better to deal with sobriety now. Or at
least try.
Addressing why I was pissed all the time. It stopped me
thinking about things I didn’t want to think about, and
then naturally became alcohol dependant and forgetting
why..
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Hey Nick, welcome back! You did not have a relapse. You just started drinking again after a break. Life will see overwhelming immediately after stopping, but that is mostly withdrawal and the associated anxiety. Trust me, if you give it time, that will improve immensely, though life will still be life. That is yours to make. Trust that your outlook will improve with time and keep your eye on the prize. Initially, it is very hard and you may suffer temporarily. I assure you over the long run, it will get better. Hang in there and keep in mind that it will take a little time, but it is worth it. Get out and get some exercise and fresh air. Try and eat well. If you want to be sober, you can be.
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Welcome back!
Hope and faith are different things- and both are hallmarks of religion, and can also be two in every day, "secular" life whether you are religious or not. Both are certainly things I have grown in as I have been in recovery.
What is your plan? Do you want to be sober more than you want to drink? Obviously, drinking is causing you great pain and you know you need to stop. A plan of action is key- now sounds like a great time for AA.
Hope to see you around- good luck.
Hope and faith are different things- and both are hallmarks of religion, and can also be two in every day, "secular" life whether you are religious or not. Both are certainly things I have grown in as I have been in recovery.
What is your plan? Do you want to be sober more than you want to drink? Obviously, drinking is causing you great pain and you know you need to stop. A plan of action is key- now sounds like a great time for AA.
Hope to see you around- good luck.
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Day 2 here again at 48, I'm with ya. Rewriting my action plan today and hitting a meeting. I find I'm my own worst critic when it comes to, well, anything in life. Being kind but firm with myself this time around and will be vigilant in squashing the, " yes, but" conditions my AV will try and place on my sobriety.
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