You know what is worse than a judgmental non-addict?
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You know what is worse than a judgmental non-addict?
A holier than thou judgmental addict who not only believes they are cured but pretends it never happened and thinks it is OK that they abuse their prescriptions since they aren't doing just the fun stuff anymore.
Yeah, that is my sister.
What a fun hour I just had listening to her call me names and belittle my recovery. Oh YES there is a blog post in my immediate future.
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Yeah, that is my sister.
What a fun hour I just had listening to her call me names and belittle my recovery. Oh YES there is a blog post in my immediate future.
Can't respond immediately to responses if there are any. At work and cell service is spotty.
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your sister and i are similar
over the years i have been completely guilty of
gossip
judging others harshly
failing to see my part
dumb decisions
extreme selfishness
because im a self centered, selfish and self involved person
as a drunk and a knucklehead its always about me
i will try to keep coming back
over the years i have been completely guilty of
gossip
judging others harshly
failing to see my part
dumb decisions
extreme selfishness
because im a self centered, selfish and self involved person
as a drunk and a knucklehead its always about me
i will try to keep coming back
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Originally Posted by Lightning Bug 
Hurt. Very hurt.
but what she said isn't who you are TODAY.
it may have been you in the past, but not TODAY.
and her opinion doesn't define who you are.
the great fact is, even thought your sister, youre allowed to set boundaries with her for your well being.
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Originally Posted by Madbird
A whole hour? I guess if a family member treated me like that, I wouldn't be listening to them much at all anymore.
That's her truth, not yours.
That's her truth, not yours.
I could see peace instead of this
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Originally Posted by Lightning Bug
Sorry, didn't mean listen on the phone. It was an email thread. It took so long because I am mouthy and don't put up with her crap. I am sick of her. Been dealing with her my whole life. I have lived a thousand miles away from home for 20 years. I haven't even seen her in 5 years. She doesn't even know me!
It's easy for me to say now, but I've been through my own share of taking what others say too much to heart and letting it affect my peace. And I can still be like that.
I've learned that just because someone is family doesn't mean we have to put up with bad treatment. I agree some boundaries are a good idea.
All I can do is quietly go about my own business of getting well and let my example speak for itself. It doesn't matter what someone else thinks if my conscience is clear and I'm doing my best to live a good life.
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I think that most addicts behave that way at least in certain periods. If not due to lack of awareness of our issue, then conscious ignorance and manipulation to get away with our own behaviors. I remember accusing my ex-BF for his addictions many years ago and putting that in opposition of myself, how I was not prone to dependence and addictions. That is totally ridiculous but somehow I recall believing it back then and I did manage to shame my ex with it.
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