Originally Posted by Berrybean

I'm sorry if you found my comments hurtful. They certainly weren't intended that way. For me, in that period where I was still trying to figure it all out, I spent so much time looking back, that I found it hard to move forward (mentally). My head was full of the old problems and things that I could not change hoping round and round, which took up a lot of emotional energy. It also kept me close to the idea of drinking, because the drinking was what i kept thinking about. Once I'd decided to just accept things for what they were (I.e. accepting that if i take the first drink, then chances are I'd get more drunk than intended and do and say beastly things, so the answer needed to be no first drink) then I was more able to look forward, become more solution focussed than problem focussed, and life seemed much brighter and hopeful.

I didn't realised you'd already quit. I was reading it as that yiu intend to quit. So apologies for that as well. And congratulations on your accumulating sober time.