JoeyG1000

I'm very proud of 16 days. I'm going to AA daily and am actually participating, working the steps, and have a sponsor. I was a bartender for years and I've been busy interviewing for jobs not involving alcohol.

I feel bored, find myself missing how things were because it was comfortable, but am fully aware that lifestyle was catastrophic and going back isn't an option. I feel lonely, that I have little to no friends who don't drink all the time. I'm still catching myself feeling resentment towards those who can drink normally and those who I feel have wronged me in the past. My emotions are all over the place. I know it's temporary and I have no intentions of getting off course, I'm just bored at home and decided to share what's on my mind.

shirlygirly

Congratulations!!! 16 days is a really big deal. I remember feeling the exact same way you described. I hung in there and soon enough the resentments and loneliness passed. Stay active in your program and I'm sure the same will happen for you.

markinny

yep....sounds just like me. I am at 35 days. I have noticed tho that I am ever so slowly learning to adjust to it. what you're feeling is very common. just try your best to not overly dwell on it where it turns into self pity. I went down that path early on. it doesn't help. I felt at around 2 weeks that I was just turning the corner. things keep getting better. hang in there. AA can be a big help with feeling lonely and bored as you already have probably found out.

Dee74

Hi Joey

16 days is great

yeah it takes a little transition time...by the end, all my ideas on fun activities involved a bottle...

Sitting on the couch was fine for drunken me , but sober Dee needed a little more

It's worth making an effort to think back to things you used to enjoy doing before the booze took over, I think? old hobbies interests or anything you'd like to start fresh?

D.

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MariahGayle

Great going o. 16 days Joey! Be proud of yourself & keep moving forward!

Pinky1

Well done joey
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MissPerfumado

Congratulations! 16 days is great. You sound solid and committed. Emotions going all over the place sound pretty normal for early sobriety. I had a reasonable amount of anxiety and tension, looking back now. But I did start thinking about things to do and got very active going back to the gym, running, and recommitting to my yoga practice. I also rebuilt my friendships slowly, putting them on a sober footing (learning to interact without drinking). I've kept those things up and they are the backbone of my new sober life. I did a huge spring-clean around that time too, and threw out / gave away a lot of what I didn't need. Very cathartic and symbolic

Soberwolf

Grats Joey

thomas11

Sharing your thoughts about drinking is never a bad idea. Congrats on 16 days.

cwood3

Joey, try to think of something wild and crazy that you might have thought you wanted to do. Maybe something you've seen somebody make and wondered, "that looks cool". In other words, something to dabble with. The early days of sobriety are a perfect opportunity to focus on something totally strange to you. Something new that you can carrry into your new life.

january161992

a good friend of mine goes to meetings in lathrop not too far from you

hes got 9 years

keep at it

Michelle644

Congratulations on 16 sober days!! Wooo hoooo. I am also going through the samething. Last night I became emotional because, "it just isn't fair that I can not drink like a normal person. I know it wasn't right but, I honestly couldn't help it. So, you are not alone.

WhiskeyBent

Good job mate.

Delizadee

Early sobriety can be an uncomfortable and lonely thing. Not only are we trying to figure out how to fit in our new skin but also how we fit into our new world.
great job on 16 days. Keep working at it and reaching out to make new connections and hopefully the loneliness will pass

PurpleKnight

Day 16 is fantastic Joey!! Keep it going!!