I'm scared
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Guys, I drank last night. There were post work drinks and I got myself bladdered. I'm so embarrassed and ashamed. What is wrong with me? Why can't I do this? This is a relapse, I just want to stop. I was so drunk I couldn't talk. My mum came and picked me up from where I was. I feel so ashamed.
Guys, I drank last night. There were post work drinks and I got myself bladdered. I'm so embarrassed and ashamed. What is wrong with me? Why can't I do this? This is a relapse, I just want to stop. I was so drunk I couldn't talk. My mum came and picked me up from where I was. I feel so ashamed.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-shiznit.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-plans-1.html
And please remember, beating yourself up really is a waste of energy at this point. Preserve that precious energy. You deserve sobriety, but no one can give it to you. It's an inside job that only YOU can work for. All that 'I don't deserve it ' bull is just your AV at work. You DO deserve it. Everyone deserves it. Maybe it's time to stand up and demand to have what you deserve (a happy sober life ). Demand it.... of yourself.
Maybe now would be a good time to get to some meetings. Xx
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It is scary...
Your post is exactly what happened to me the night before last... I'd been trying to get sober and made it just under a week. Then a craving hit.
It was surreal because I spent hours thinking about drinking, but deep down I knew I was going to pick up the bottle. I just knew it. I still tried to put if off, but the little voice in my head said, "You know you're gonna do it! Why are you wasting precious drinking time? The later you start, the more likely you'll have a hangover!"
It's terrifying because your own thoughts and feelings become your worst enemies.
You're not alone, though... Don't be afraid.
It was surreal because I spent hours thinking about drinking, but deep down I knew I was going to pick up the bottle. I just knew it. I still tried to put if off, but the little voice in my head said, "You know you're gonna do it! Why are you wasting precious drinking time? The later you start, the more likely you'll have a hangover!"
It's terrifying because your own thoughts and feelings become your worst enemies.
You're not alone, though... Don't be afraid.
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Thanks guys, I'm just so angry with myself. At least I'm not drinking today. What was I thinking going along for drinks? I wasn't going to go initially and then just chose to go spare of the moment. My family are so worried about me because I get into such a state when I drink. I want soberiety so badly, but I'm unable to go for longer than a week.
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I'm going to go back to AA and journal daily. I don't ever manage a few days of journalling but it helps me stay accountable and reflective of my feelings. I'm going to reread some of my sobriety books too.
SadGirl: So glad you're feeling better. Keep up the good work! Just a P.S. to my earlier post on this thread. If the cravings come back or trouble you remember that the docs have some non addictive RX's to lessen cravings. Check with the Doc.
Good luck. All the best.
Bill.
Good luck. All the best.
Bill.
Take care.
BB
the current belief is that ON AVERAGE it takes 66 days for something to become a new learned habit. of course your mileage may vary! but there is second school of thought regarding how MANY TIMES one needs to repeat a new behavior before it becomes habit. for example, they say it takes 3,000 to 5,000 repetitions to burn memory into your muscles. and another that says it takes 10,000 hours of practice.
whether any of these stats are EXACTLY true is beside the point.....the message is if we WANT to create NEW habits, we have to put in the TIME on a regular ongoing basis. just getting started is not enough, we have to remain consistent. its no big mystery why the recommendation for newcomers is 90 meetings in 90 days.
whether any of these stats are EXACTLY true is beside the point.....the message is if we WANT to create NEW habits, we have to put in the TIME on a regular ongoing basis. just getting started is not enough, we have to remain consistent. its no big mystery why the recommendation for newcomers is 90 meetings in 90 days.
Guys, I drank last night. There were post work drinks and I got myself bladdered. I'm so embarrassed and ashamed. What is wrong with me? Why can't I do this? This is a relapse, I just want to stop. I was so drunk I couldn't talk. My mum came and picked me up from where I was. I feel so ashamed.
I learned the hard way I had no business being around after work drinks if I wanted to be sober.
Doesn't mean I had to become a shut in and do nothing but sit at home - but I had to be cleverer about the things I did for fun and the invites I accepted.
The only thing to do right now is pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start again
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Thanks for your replies guys, I feel incredibly anxious. This is the last day two for me, I can't handle any more of this. I'm going to go to a meeting today. I need some more focus on my sobriety and I need to get a new sponsor. I had one and it was going back great but she picked up and couldn't be my sponsor any more. I just feel at a loss and so alone. My family are so mad/worried about me. I've had several rock bottoms and I can't go back to where I was-I can't go back to that place. I feel so defeated at the moment. Can some of you let me know what made up your plans when you were new to sobriety?
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