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Soberwolf 07-27-2016 03:22 PM

Goodnight all

Jsbodhi 07-27-2016 03:23 PM

Tetra, you're 35 and I'm 33
We're both old!!!!
Haha- just kidding.
My favourite guy on sex and the city was Aiden.
I like big too

U75 07-27-2016 03:27 PM

Night SW.

On my way to dinner. My associate was supposed to find a good burger joint, and I didn't each lunch today, so I'm primed for a tasty meal. Seeya folks.

LBrain 07-27-2016 03:38 PM

showered.. called it a day... a full day but no overtime... maybe a little...

so I'm just started on the end and meticulously pulling out the roots on these reddish clover plants - they are tough buggers! and lots of them... anyway, I feel this crawling up my arm, well. scampering is more like it... a friendly spider! he runs up my arm, turns around and runs back down and jumps off at my wrist... okay, he's gone, next thing I know there he is again running up my arm, turns around and runs down and jumps off the back of my hand, after the THIRD time he did it I saw him booking it across the driveway..., I had several spider encounters and saw many different insects, many of which were crawling on me... and ANTS! but they were tame today... and of course a few bees landing on me... I get along with the bees... it's the ants that bother me most...

making stuffed flounder and etc...

but a tasty burger does sound good...

Ruby2 07-27-2016 03:43 PM

Tetra, people who tend to say "look at me, I'm old. I'm 34" are people who don't actually believe that. They're saying it to make someone else feel better about themselves. You're not old. I've told you before, I'll tell you again. You're just feeling down and vulnerable. It will go away. Truly.

I'm looking out the train window and thinking just how lucky I am not to be stuck in traffic. although, the first day I'm on the train the cars are flying by on my usual driving route. Isn't that always the case?

Behan 07-27-2016 03:45 PM

I think I know the hotel you are staying in Username.

http://i63.tinypic.com/2pyumnq.gif

Jsbodhi 07-27-2016 03:47 PM

Did that guy reply to your nasty text tetra?

saoutchik 07-27-2016 03:49 PM

Stuffed flounder sounds good LB, what stuffing do you use

I had grilled swordfish with new potatoes in pesto and a green salad which went some way to mollify me after that disagreeable letter from HMRC

Bed is beckoning, see you tomorrow

Jsbodhi 07-27-2016 03:55 PM

Nite sao
I'm gonna start watching stranger things on netflix

LBrain 07-27-2016 03:56 PM

how do you guys find the motion things and post them... I tried it once and it was way "too large" to post... anyhoo

I'm just using the premade phillips crabcakes I have to stuff the flounder, but it's gonna be good... I looked at swordfish, and halibut - spare the halibut jokes please - both a little pricey for me... it has been a while since I grilled swordfish... or mako shark... but I don't think I can get it in stores, around here at least...

Jsbodhi 07-27-2016 04:01 PM

I just had a tasty burger brain

Venecia 07-27-2016 04:03 PM

Brynn, that story about the pet and the drug test is hysterical.


Originally Posted by Tetra (Post 6065345)

When I get home I just fall apart. I need to take this pain away. Cover up the emptiness I feel inside. And to be truthful now, the reason why I'm not drinking is because I can't afford it. My rent is due on Monday. I had hoped he would wait until the 4th August as I moved in July 4th but he said he is collecting every one else's on Monday and he would get mine then too.

Tetra, I'm concerned about the comment above. It's true that life throws difficult things our way, things that exacerbate our sadness and/or loneliness. But we cannot default to drinking as a "solution." Choosing to drink -- or wanting to but being unable because of money -- is not in included in our list of potential ways to cope with hardship.

Life will always throw curveballs at us. Deciding to drink in response is not handling them.

Ruby2 07-27-2016 04:09 PM

Tetra, ditto what Venecia said about the drinking. No you may not drink. It won't make anything feel better, only worse.

Brynn, that was really funny about the "service" animal in the bathroom. Was she thinking that pet urine would be untainted? Eww.

Almost to my stop. Son called to ask me to buy him Mountain Dew on the way home. The kid does not need sugar or caffeine. So the answer was "no."

Tetra 07-27-2016 04:18 PM


Originally Posted by Jsbodhi (Post 6065690)
Did that guy reply to your nasty text tetra?

Actually I sent him a message on Facebook instead before I deleted him. I know that he read it and no he did not. That says it all. Mostly I blame myself for having so little self respect.

And no I'm not drinking. Just smoking a little bit and having camomile tea instead.

happyandfree 07-27-2016 04:20 PM

Ah to be 35 again. ...sounds heavenly. :)
But....I was very grateful that I was able to come home early from work. Had a strange upset stomach...which has passed. I'm happy to rest, relax, and watch some tv. Got a busy day tomorrow.

Upward2Enlightenment 07-27-2016 04:22 PM

HaF playing sick to get out of work early. Tsk tsk

Jsbodhi 07-27-2016 04:26 PM

But how did you not have self respect? If someone lies to you its not your fault xo

Tetra 07-27-2016 04:32 PM

Perhaps I should have read the signs. There were many I'm sure.

happyandfree 07-27-2016 04:32 PM

Haha suid...I'll take any excuse.

LBrain 07-27-2016 04:41 PM

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getting drug tested and alcohol tested was routine for me... A LOT!
they had blue or purple dye in the toilet, no sink - an isolated room with a bowl, you were not allowed to touch ANYTHING, you had to sign that you had nothing to drink or eat within 15 minutes of test - including chewing gum a cigarette - anything, and also, if you coughed or sneezed...
if you coughed in front of the tester you had to sit and be monitored for 15 minutes before they would test - breathalyzer, then you had to empty everything from your pockets - and they checked,,, then wash you hands - NO SOAP, just rinse with water and towel dry,,, it was quite the routine... and if you were late, oh boy...
and no small talk... strictly business... what a pita it was...

oh, and goofing with the sample was grounds for immediate dismissal, do not pass go etc. have a nice day thanks for playing our game...

flounder was gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooood! and of course squash - again...

MLD51 07-27-2016 04:48 PM


Originally Posted by Jsbodhi (Post 6065654)
Hey guys xoxo Got a love letter in the mail today from roanoke- made my day; it was a beautiful letter too. Marty xoxo I like independence too. Roanoke isn't clingy, but he's super all the way in too. Normally that freaks me out and I run away too- but I feel the sane way about him so it's all good. Why do you like handyman?? Are you really into him or is it more of a common lifestyle thing? Are you crazy about him and just need space or does he annoy you?

I just don't know. There are things that annoy me, for sure. I think what bothers me the most is that I feel like he'd crawl over broken glass to do do any tiny little thing I mention I need done around my house, or get me anything I want, even though he has no money. For example, I mentioned in passing that I needed to pull the weeds under my deck. Yesterday while I was at work he came to my house and did it. Without telling me. He has done other things like that. It was nice, but just kind of made me feel weird. Today he was texting me that he was a complete mess and bawling during his dinner break at work. All I did was tell him I wanted to talk about some things that were making me uncomfortable. He's showing his cards in a big way. I didn't say anything about dumping him and he's a complete puddle. That feels really bad and like a big red flag.

Upward2Enlightenment 07-27-2016 04:50 PM


Originally Posted by Tetra (Post 6065746)
Perhaps I should have read the signs. There were many I'm sure.

Don't beat yourself up tetra, he may not have shown any real signs.

Upward2Enlightenment 07-27-2016 04:53 PM


Originally Posted by mld51 (Post 6065766)
that feels really bad and like a big red flag.

bingo

MLD51 07-27-2016 04:57 PM

I'm treating myself for dinner tonight. NY Strip, steamed Yukon golds, fresh local sweet corn. Feels like a celebration. I feel relieved that I'm asserting myself with handyman instead of just letting myself get dragged down into something I'm not ready for.

Soberpotamus 07-27-2016 04:59 PM

That's good stuff, Marty. :)

biminiblue 07-27-2016 05:05 PM

yeah, that kind of manipulative over-emo reaction wouldn't fly with me either, MLD.

How long is he sober?

Soberpotamus 07-27-2016 05:06 PM

I had an amazing three days of training with an extraordinary individual. Quite something... and quite unexpected. I won't be able to process it fully until I sleep on it. Will type more about it tomorrow.

biminiblue 07-27-2016 05:09 PM

LB, hit "Quote" on my post to see How They Do That.

(you just have to look at the image size before you link it...not bigger than 700 X 700 is good forum size.)

http://www.websophist.com/Praying_Ma...PianoAN200.gif

MLD51 07-27-2016 05:09 PM


Originally Posted by biminiblue (Post 6065795)
yeah, that kind of manipulative over-emo reaction wouldn't fly with me either, MLD. How long is he sober?

Almost two years, this time. He had over 16 at one time, but relapsed for about two years - he was drinking when I dated him before. I broke up with him back then for pretty much the same things that are bothering me now. We discussed all this before dating this time, and he promised it wouldn't happen again.

biminiblue 07-27-2016 05:11 PM


Originally Posted by MLD51 (Post 6065802)
Almost two years, this time. He had over 16 at one time, but relapsed for about two years - he was drinking when I dated him before. I broke up with him back then for pretty much the same things that are bothering me now. We discussed all this before dating this time, and he promised it wouldn't happen again.

Well, at least he's consistent. :dunno:

Like they say on F & F - when they show you who they are, believe them.


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