Feeling a Slip Coming
for me?
with time and patience
I'll try and keep it brief.
I had a little counselling help in the beginning, but mainly simply staying sober forced me to deal with problems and find solutions.
That helped me feel better about myself.
I also did a lot of volunteering. That made me feel purposeful and gave my life a little meaning, which was something I really needed back then.
It helped my self esteem as well. However small, I could see I was making a difference.
It took months not weeks, but I began to see that I wasn't the bad person I thought I was or the bad person people had always told me I was.
Little by little I shed that skin and emerged as the man I wanted to be
I couldn't have done that while I was drinking because drinking was a default vote for THE status quo.
Nothing got solved, no growth started, and no positive changes occurred when I was drinking.
D
with time and patience
I'll try and keep it brief.
I had a little counselling help in the beginning, but mainly simply staying sober forced me to deal with problems and find solutions.
That helped me feel better about myself.
I also did a lot of volunteering. That made me feel purposeful and gave my life a little meaning, which was something I really needed back then.
It helped my self esteem as well. However small, I could see I was making a difference.
It took months not weeks, but I began to see that I wasn't the bad person I thought I was or the bad person people had always told me I was.
Little by little I shed that skin and emerged as the man I wanted to be
I couldn't have done that while I was drinking because drinking was a default vote for THE status quo.
Nothing got solved, no growth started, and no positive changes occurred when I was drinking.
D
I'm sorry I misunderstood, newhope.
I'm still learning how to communicate with people effectively because I over-write and tend to go on a bit much (and probably make assumptions I shouldn't). Thanks for helping me to be more sensitive to others.
You sound purposeful and strong. You are an inspiration
I'm still learning how to communicate with people effectively because I over-write and tend to go on a bit much (and probably make assumptions I shouldn't). Thanks for helping me to be more sensitive to others.
You sound purposeful and strong. You are an inspiration
give yourself a break, newhope.
what i mean is: don't criticize yourself for feeling the jumbled stuff about the house, what was done to you, and why you felt you needed/wanted to drive by there and "see".
after i had been sober a bit, something from the past hit me again in a seemingly fresh and stabbing way. i remember sitting there, crying, wondering if i had to relive all my past pain in a new and immediate way. and how would i ever survive that?
well, it didn't happen. the longer i was sober, the more doable became the "just sitting with it", no matter what "it" was/is.
chances are good the "space" you're in about the past will change. esp. with help from a therapist and ongoing sobriety and adding so-called tools.
one of them is compassion. for yourself, now and then.
what i mean is: don't criticize yourself for feeling the jumbled stuff about the house, what was done to you, and why you felt you needed/wanted to drive by there and "see".
after i had been sober a bit, something from the past hit me again in a seemingly fresh and stabbing way. i remember sitting there, crying, wondering if i had to relive all my past pain in a new and immediate way. and how would i ever survive that?
well, it didn't happen. the longer i was sober, the more doable became the "just sitting with it", no matter what "it" was/is.
chances are good the "space" you're in about the past will change. esp. with help from a therapist and ongoing sobriety and adding so-called tools.
one of them is compassion. for yourself, now and then.
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