I need some love.
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I agree with Dee. But also, when we can show love to others by doing loving acts (giving without wanting to receive) that's when we start to feel loved ourselves. Not because they will necessarily show us love in return, but because that's when we start to see ourselves as loveable, and become open to receiving love from ourselves and from others.
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I had poor self esteem so the guys in NA told me to start doing esteem-able things. (I hated this suggestion, but it has worked).
In recovery love can be about compassion and support, (and often is).
However, just as frequently love is expressed when people give you the straight-up truth, like it or not. It may sound like they're getting on your case, but the truth is we see people die on a regular basis who decided to do things their own way.
In recovery love can be about compassion and support, (and often is).
However, just as frequently love is expressed when people give you the straight-up truth, like it or not. It may sound like they're getting on your case, but the truth is we see people die on a regular basis who decided to do things their own way.
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Jared:
Sending you a hug.
I tend to agree with Ivan and sva: The ones who are HONEST with you are the ones who love you the most.
But, HONESTY does not always feel good. It's tough sometimes. But the honest truth is sometimes what it takes to spur us into to action and really get going on the CHANGE that needs to take place in us.
It may start with little changes and morph into big change. But, for me it starts with first putting one foot in front of the other and taking steps. If I think in terms of big change I get overwhelmed like I'm never going to make it...and I'm more likely to feel like I have already failed when I haven't even given it a really good chance.
How do we receive love and feel more lovable when it seems as though we aren't? I remember that regardless of what other people do, there is One that loves me at all times 24/7/365. I need to go to that Source and get it and then give it to others. In turn as Berrybean said I can extend that love to others and it makes me feel more lovable.
Sending you a hug.
I tend to agree with Ivan and sva: The ones who are HONEST with you are the ones who love you the most.
But, HONESTY does not always feel good. It's tough sometimes. But the honest truth is sometimes what it takes to spur us into to action and really get going on the CHANGE that needs to take place in us.
It may start with little changes and morph into big change. But, for me it starts with first putting one foot in front of the other and taking steps. If I think in terms of big change I get overwhelmed like I'm never going to make it...and I'm more likely to feel like I have already failed when I haven't even given it a really good chance.
How do we receive love and feel more lovable when it seems as though we aren't? I remember that regardless of what other people do, there is One that loves me at all times 24/7/365. I need to go to that Source and get it and then give it to others. In turn as Berrybean said I can extend that love to others and it makes me feel more lovable.
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Then here you go: lovvveee
Now, soak up everything people give you and do what you need to do to love yourself.
Recovery made me do some things I didn't want to do. I had to be very uncomfortable sometimes. But it gave me so very much, and taught me to like myself again.
Now, soak up everything people give you and do what you need to do to love yourself.
Recovery made me do some things I didn't want to do. I had to be very uncomfortable sometimes. But it gave me so very much, and taught me to like myself again.
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