Across the aisle from Dread
Across the aisle from Dread
So how do we manage, with The Sense Of Dread?
I got up, made the kids breakfast, packed their lunches, took them to school.
I went and had coffee with friends. Came home and worked on a task that was due by noon for work. Posted a bit here on SR to vent and share my feelings. Read a few others' posts, responded to a few.
I got a couple things accomplished around the house. Had a mid-morning snack. I noticed I was spending too much time on facebook, logged off.
I'm going to go to the gym now. Get some exercise. A sauna. I'll come home and get a couple more hours' work done. Then get the kids. Then a snack for them and we'll head off to Martial Arts for two hours. Then back home. Dinner (oh, crap, that's right! gotta put the roast in!!). Then get ready for bed, read to the kids, talk with my lady, give thanks for the abundance in my life..... head to dreamland.
Sure, I'll maybe wake to The Sense Of Dread again... but there's Love in my Life. There's Life in my Love. There's lots to be thankful for. I don't sit paralyzed by Dread. I move on despite it.
Life is Good.
I got up, made the kids breakfast, packed their lunches, took them to school.
I went and had coffee with friends. Came home and worked on a task that was due by noon for work. Posted a bit here on SR to vent and share my feelings. Read a few others' posts, responded to a few.
I got a couple things accomplished around the house. Had a mid-morning snack. I noticed I was spending too much time on facebook, logged off.
I'm going to go to the gym now. Get some exercise. A sauna. I'll come home and get a couple more hours' work done. Then get the kids. Then a snack for them and we'll head off to Martial Arts for two hours. Then back home. Dinner (oh, crap, that's right! gotta put the roast in!!). Then get ready for bed, read to the kids, talk with my lady, give thanks for the abundance in my life..... head to dreamland.
Sure, I'll maybe wake to The Sense Of Dread again... but there's Love in my Life. There's Life in my Love. There's lots to be thankful for. I don't sit paralyzed by Dread. I move on despite it.
Life is Good.
I got up early, came into work early to get some cleaning done that I had not finished (I clean our office suites for extra cash), getting work done, posting on SR, getting ready for lunch, might nap or read (I'm tired), will go home, cook dinner (or maybe leftovers, I'm not sure), spend some time w/my child (the other one works tonight), maybe take a walk, a nice warm bath, and bed.
Tomorrow will be a new day. I meet with my pastor tomorrow which will help the Dread.
I will not let this stop me from doing good things in my life. That is a promise.
Tomorrow will be a new day. I meet with my pastor tomorrow which will help the Dread.
I will not let this stop me from doing good things in my life. That is a promise.
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Thanks for giving me something to think about. This is something that I have to work on for me, that being sober isn't going to magically make my problems go away. I really hope that dealing with my anxiety gets easier, though.
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Ah the dread...
Getting sober helped a lot with the "I'm causing my own demise" dread but so many other issues file in to my brain as replacements.
It's always been here with me but I'm trying to be circumspect about it by just acknowledging it and continuing on with my life.
Best to each of you.
J
Getting sober helped a lot with the "I'm causing my own demise" dread but so many other issues file in to my brain as replacements.
It's always been here with me but I'm trying to be circumspect about it by just acknowledging it and continuing on with my life.
Best to each of you.
J
My dread was stronger when I was physically addicted. It came in as a wave of fear. A rush of emotion. Some issue that suddenly surfaced.
No clean, the dread is closer to sadness. A longing for something lost. No more daily waves of emotion.
Is this what you are referring to.
Is there a reference somewhere?
No clean, the dread is closer to sadness. A longing for something lost. No more daily waves of emotion.
Is this what you are referring to.
Is there a reference somewhere?
yeah... this thread was a counterpoint to the thread The Sense Of Dread
Ah the dread...
Getting sober helped a lot with the "I'm causing my own demise" dread but so many other issues file in to my brain as replacements.
It's always been here with me but I'm trying to be circumspect about it by just acknowledging it and continuing on with my life.
Best to each of you.
J
Getting sober helped a lot with the "I'm causing my own demise" dread but so many other issues file in to my brain as replacements.
It's always been here with me but I'm trying to be circumspect about it by just acknowledging it and continuing on with my life.
Best to each of you.
J
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Thanks for that FreeOwl .
Heading towards 4 weeks sober I occasionally get waves of impending doom ,like a fear that starts in my groin and sweeps right over my head . This can happen for no apparent reason and leaves me weak at the knees . I have had problematic anxiety most of my adult life and used alcohol to get me out of it . Fortunately these fear , dread, gloomy episodes are few ( once maybe twice a day ) . If I get too tired and try to push on its not good for me but I'm finding it hard to relax for long , always finding another task to keep me occupied . Sleep is still not great ,waking up worried and panicky at all hours ,don't know why but use what ive learned on anxiety management to get through it .
Alcohol of course never was and never will be the answer .
Heading towards 4 weeks sober I occasionally get waves of impending doom ,like a fear that starts in my groin and sweeps right over my head . This can happen for no apparent reason and leaves me weak at the knees . I have had problematic anxiety most of my adult life and used alcohol to get me out of it . Fortunately these fear , dread, gloomy episodes are few ( once maybe twice a day ) . If I get too tired and try to push on its not good for me but I'm finding it hard to relax for long , always finding another task to keep me occupied . Sleep is still not great ,waking up worried and panicky at all hours ,don't know why but use what ive learned on anxiety management to get through it .
Alcohol of course never was and never will be the answer .
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You know ! it would be interesting to know ( maybe i'll start a thread on this ) how many people had problematic anxiety or other emotional ,behavioural issues that led to abuse of alcohol and if they are sober now do they still have problems with this .
Anxiety is a Behavioral Wellness Issue - anxietycentre.com
Anxiety is a Behavioral Wellness Issue - anxietycentre.com
Thanks for that FreeOwl .
Heading towards 4 weeks sober I occasionally get waves of impending doom ,like a fear that starts in my groin and sweeps right over my head . This can happen for no apparent reason and leaves me weak at the knees . I have had problematic anxiety most of my adult life and used alcohol to get me out of it . Fortunately these fear , dread, gloomy episodes are few ( once maybe twice a day ) . If I get too tired and try to push on its not good for me but I'm finding it hard to relax for long , always finding another task to keep me occupied . Sleep is still not great ,waking up worried and panicky at all hours ,don't know why but use what ive learned on anxiety management to get through it .
Alcohol of course never was and never will be the answer .
Heading towards 4 weeks sober I occasionally get waves of impending doom ,like a fear that starts in my groin and sweeps right over my head . This can happen for no apparent reason and leaves me weak at the knees . I have had problematic anxiety most of my adult life and used alcohol to get me out of it . Fortunately these fear , dread, gloomy episodes are few ( once maybe twice a day ) . If I get too tired and try to push on its not good for me but I'm finding it hard to relax for long , always finding another task to keep me occupied . Sleep is still not great ,waking up worried and panicky at all hours ,don't know why but use what ive learned on anxiety management to get through it .
Alcohol of course never was and never will be the answer .
I bought the audio book..from Panic to power. It helped me.
Anxiety is nervous energy. It can be manipulated to help vs hurt.
Imo....Not drinking is critical to developing normalized feelings that we can grow into understanding over time.
Drinking or drugs changes our chemical balance making it impossible to deal w life as we are designed to do.
Thanks.
This is going to sound funny, but lately I have taken to visualizing my anxiety as a scared little dog that barks at everything and everyone unfamiliar. So when I feel anxious I imagine him barking viciously, and then I scratch his head and say "it's ok." Then he calms down and licks my hand Believe it or not, this actually helps
This is going to sound funny, but lately I have taken to visualizing my anxiety as a scared little dog that barks at everything and everyone unfamiliar. So when I feel anxious I imagine him barking viciously, and then I scratch his head and say "it's ok." Then he calms down and licks my hand Believe it or not, this actually helps
This, I'm going to use.
lol
Perfect.
I think a lot of "the dread" your referencing is pretty normal. Really comes down to how much responsibility you have on your plate (parenting being the number one I think. I can relate) and how you look at the situation. A BIG part of my sobriety is to draw positive. Sounds like you practice gratitude which is fantastic.
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