Late night chat fest...anyone up for it?
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I have something to talk about. I am sitting on the couch because I don't want to go to bed. My husband is there and we are officially separated. I am confused. Should I go to bed or stay on the couch?
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Originally Posted by Frickaflip233 
I hope your night was ok. I can't imagine sleeping in a bed with someone I'm at Cold War with. You move on the 15th right? Is there a friend or family you can stay with until then?
I still don't have confirmation that i got the apartment I want. She said this weekend. Fingers crossed.
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I'm glad you got some sleep. Maybe buy an air mattress to sleep on? I dunno. I mean, it is your bed too!
Obviously your hub is REALLY angry right now. Right or wrong, its pretty common for spouses/ partners of addicts to become incredibly suspicious of everything the addict does. My ex boyfriend (the relationship I lost due to my addiction..among other things) would say amazingly cold things to me (he was pretty nasty even when I wasn't drinking, which was 95% of the relationship). He told me several times that I was going to die and there was no hope for me. While I understand why he said these things, it still hurt like crazy. I just had to detach from his words, stick to my recovery and get the hell away from him.
It sounds like you're doing pretty well in a very tough situation!
Obviously your hub is REALLY angry right now. Right or wrong, its pretty common for spouses/ partners of addicts to become incredibly suspicious of everything the addict does. My ex boyfriend (the relationship I lost due to my addiction..among other things) would say amazingly cold things to me (he was pretty nasty even when I wasn't drinking, which was 95% of the relationship). He told me several times that I was going to die and there was no hope for me. While I understand why he said these things, it still hurt like crazy. I just had to detach from his words, stick to my recovery and get the hell away from him.
It sounds like you're doing pretty well in a very tough situation!
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Originally Posted by thomas11
Hi ES, its a holiday weekend, lots of festive things will be going on. Whatever you do, please don't drink. I don't think you will, but a reminder never hurts. Is it ok that I say that?
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