Jillian2563

I accept that I am an alcoholic. I accept that I can not change other people and their actions. I am the problem. I am responsible for myself and my attitude. It doesn't matter how far away I run, I am always there.

ScottFromWI

That's fantastic Jillian. So many things are easier when you realize this.

Soberwolf

Jillian

Choicy

I needed to remind myself.

So glad you are here

2ndhandrose

Many things in my life started to change for the better once I had these truths locked down.

entropy1964

Such an important concept. Your addiction is the problem. And you are choosing to be in the solution. Awesome!

bluedog97

For me acceptance is a process. I'm learning all of my resentments, fears, regrets, struggles come from a place of wanting things to be different than the way they are. Things are the way they are, and I'm slowly coming to terms with that. It's troubling, humbling, but sort of liberating all at the same time. But I do struggle with this.

And no matter what, I can't drink. Thanks for sharing Jillian.

soberclover

I think this has been soooooooo key to my sobriety.....total acceptance that I am an alcoholic and that I cannot drink alcohol. No matter what.

Wtbaf16

It's important for me to get to this stage. I keep negotiating with myself that if I don't drink during the week then I can have some drinks at the weekend. I have to accept that I can never drink alcohol again....

Jillian2563

I've been struggling with acceptance as well.

Dee74

Hows it going Jillian?

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Jillian2563

Going good. Got my white chip today. I definitely needed to go to a meeting. Physically I feel ok. This morning I was a little nauseous but feel better now. Kind of can't wait to see my counselor again on Wednesday.

soberaccountant

If you haven't read or got a big book yet, this passage from it on page 417 is something that you will very much relate to:

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life —unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

Nofearnobeer

Jillian , I was there for the 8AM meeting...I'll be there again tomorrow as well.. Got my white chip too...Funny thing is, I stayed in a hotel for a few nights because they were cleaning ducts...I can't be around the crud..I'll be durn, don't ever put me in isolation again with my own head..It's a skeery place to be right now..lol...At least not for a while...Good Lord...Great post BTW..

Jillian2563

Hey Andy, I went to the 1pm meeting. My therapist told me the 8am and 1pm were the better ones to go there since they are more structured. That place can get crazy with all the meetings they have lol.