FormerWineGirl

Hi Charliee, congratulations on 60 days! I'm all about wanting quick fixes too, I think it's a trait that many people with addiction problems share. But early sobriety certainly came with a lesson in patience for me! Give yourself time, it really does get better and better. You are 59 days removed from day 1, and that's huge!

I like the reward idea also. Do something nice for yourself at 60 days that you wouldn't ordinarily do. I did that, at 30, 60, 90 days, 6 months and 1 year. I am looking forward to my 2 year anniversary in September. If someone had told me 2 years ago that I would be sober and as happy as I am today, I would have told them they were crazy! Now I couldn't imagine NOT being sober. Please don't undo what you have accomplished, you can do this!!

MIRecovery

I find milestones to be mildly gratifying but they just aren't a big deal. The only thing that is a big deal to me is dieing sober but I imagine it will be a little late to celebrate.

I worry about today. If I go to sleep sober than today has been a good. Tomorrow will bring whatever tomorrow brings but tomorrow is not today

Charliee

I'm on day 70 now and everyday is a roller-coaster right now. I haven't had a drink and I will count that as a sucess. Today was not horrible, it was okay I guess. Right now I will settle for okay, it's better than when I was drinking that's for sure. I'm trying to be as positive as I can and live for today

madgirl

Dang MIRecovery! Ha ha

The only thing that is a big deal to me is dieing sober but I imagine it will be a little late to celebrate.

You can celebrate your sobriety while you're still alive!

Para

Good on you for 60 days!
One thing that i'm learning, is that sobriety will give you a better life for sure, but life in general won't be absolutely perfect bells and whistles and unicorns.
But that's life - it will have it's ups and downs.

I've been looking back on all the excuses I gave myself in order to drink. I have a lot of them. One of them is my life's gonna suck anyway even if i'm sober, might as well drink.

Another reason I drank was because of fear and failure. My thinking was, what if I do get sober, and i'm still a screw up in life (ie. can't keep a job etc).

Para

Also, you said you lack self respect. I, too, lost my job and license. I hated myself.
But i've accomplished a lot in my life, and that's what I focus on. I am worthy of love. And I'm working on loving myself. I'm still a good person, I just did a helluva lot of bad things. I used to pity myself all the time, big excuse I used to drink.

You have a family, kids - that's wonderful! Focus on that, and I wish you an infinite amount of sober days in the future.