Another passing... Feeling bad for feeling relief

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05-03-2016, 07:19 AM

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Nowsthetime

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Another passing... Feeling bad for feeling relief

Hello:

My friend from back home has passed away. He was an addict, booze plus anything else he could get his hands on. I'm feeling horrible because I feel relief... I have been waiting for this news for a few months, now it's true, he is gone.

I feel so bad...His mother told me "now I can rest"... I understand how she feels but I feel so selfish with these feelings. We haven't been so close lately. I separated myself when I started my journey but it still hurts to this this wonderful individual who I loved so much...

RIP, my dear R....

05-03-2016, 07:35 AM

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Anna

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I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend.

05-03-2016, 07:45 AM

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ardy

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seems like there is more of this going around.. kiddo prayers for you and family.. go out to his resting area or maybe someplace you both went when in good times you laughed a lot.. talk to him ..for he is still lost.. and needs the power of Faith and Hope and Friends to help him find that correct path... it never gets easier.. trust this old lady.. for every so often I think toby is near by.. and look for that silly wonderful laughing smile of his.. Ed too. ends up buying candy that toby liked so much.. to turn to me and say why did I do that.. and we take it to a workshop for kids... I am sorry that you and his family are in such sadness.... but kiddo he can not hurt himself with that stuff anymore. and that is a huge bit of Good Light... enough.. love and prayers a Mom in Wisconsin...

05-03-2016, 07:54 AM

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Nowsthetime

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Thanks ladies...

I'm sad...

05-03-2016, 10:50 AM

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Soberwolf

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My condolences to you & the family of the dearly departed

I'm so sorry Nows

07-04-2016, 12:36 PM

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LadyBlue0527

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I'm sorry for your loss. I hope there are some good memories that can help you through this difficult time.

07-04-2016, 12:45 PM

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SoberLeigh

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I, too, am sorry for your loss, Nowsthetime.

07-04-2016, 01:06 PM

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Soberpotamus

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I'm sorry for your loss.

And I understand the feelings of relief. I don't think it's bad at all to feel that. I felt it when my mother finally passed away. I think it's normal in these cases.

07-04-2016, 01:49 PM

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madgirl

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Sorry for your loss - I also lost a dear friend from my youth to alcohol - he had just turned 44 - it sucks and to be sure you will have mixed and complex emotions. Big hugs

07-04-2016, 02:11 PM

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Dee74

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I'm sorry for your loss.

07-04-2016, 07:46 PM

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teatreeoil007

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So sorry for your loss. It's sort of like a double loss in that part of the addict died when he was no longer the person he used to be. I know how that feels...like they slip right through your hands and just aren't 'there' anymore. And you wonder: "What happened to my friend".

Again- so sorry. Hang in there....