Day 1 feeling scared
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Originally Posted by madgirl 
Hi JLC 
We are the same age, and I too am in a marriage of the "drinking buddies" variety. I too felt it would be easier if husband would quit, and I used this to rationalize my drinking for a long time. Honestly it got to where I felt like that's all we really have in common anymore - drinking - which is a scary thing to feel.
Anyway, I decided to embrace sobriety for ME, and realized that I am the only person responsible for what goes into my body. You can do this, too.
When you feel better, check out that "sticky" in this forum for newcomers called "Looking for things to do?" It offers some concrete ideas for things to do in the evening to get through the witching hour.
I am on day 46 so I am still very new to this too, but already I can tell you that when you absolutely make up your mind to stay sober for the day, your brain will naturally look for something else to think about. As drinkers we just default to drinking when we have down time, but there is SO MUCH ELSE to do with your time! It's amazing actually.
Get through this day, go home and commit to getting into bed and resting, and look forward to better times spent doing things which are so much more fun and rewarding.
We are the same age, and I too am in a marriage of the "drinking buddies" variety. I too felt it would be easier if husband would quit, and I used this to rationalize my drinking for a long time. Honestly it got to where I felt like that's all we really have in common anymore - drinking - which is a scary thing to feel.
Anyway, I decided to embrace sobriety for ME, and realized that I am the only person responsible for what goes into my body. You can do this, too.
When you feel better, check out that "sticky" in this forum for newcomers called "Looking for things to do?" It offers some concrete ideas for things to do in the evening to get through the witching hour.
I am on day 46 so I am still very new to this too, but already I can tell you that when you absolutely make up your mind to stay sober for the day, your brain will naturally look for something else to think about. As drinkers we just default to drinking when we have down time, but there is SO MUCH ELSE to do with your time! It's amazing actually.
Get through this day, go home and commit to getting into bed and resting, and look forward to better times spent doing things which are so much more fun and rewarding.
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I have fears of medication. I'm kind of nutso I guess. I wish I had more fears of alcohol though, maybe I will now. It's ******* poison after all.
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i feel the same way
I'm hungover and shaking as well. I hate myself a little more each day. drinking has shredded my life. I hope you can quit and then share how, cause I'm desperate for some advice and a little push to get into some form of action.
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Hi, JLC. I'm sorry you're in the throes of alcohol-induced fear and panic. It's the worst feeling. I call it the Dreaded Willies. Maybe you could make one baby step and not drink today. If you do that the Willies will be much smaller tomorrow morning.
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Originally Posted by frankster
I'm hungover and shaking as well. I hate myself a little more each day. drinking has shredded my life. I hope you can quit and then share how, cause I'm desperate for some advice and a little push to get into some form of action.
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Originally Posted by LostManhattan
Hi, JLC. I'm sorry you're in the throes of alcohol-induced fear and panic. It's the worst feeling. I call it the Dreaded Willies. Maybe you could make one baby step and not drink today. If you do that the Willies will be much smaller tomorrow morning.
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Ok maybe I could call today and see about getting an appointment. Thank you. I keep thinking I'm going to just collapse and die. So much to do today. Cursing myself and looking forward to a life without hangovers.
Your Dr. has heard it before and can help you.
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hang in there I quit march 30 and had terrible anxiety and depression for a few weeks, good diet, exercise help. The sleeping part sucks I used Tylenol pm and 1.5 melatonin . One slogan in AA I like is one day at a time, just get through the day as hard as it seems. good luck you have a community of support.
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Originally Posted by fred59
hang in there I quit march 30 and had terrible anxiety and depression for a few weeks, good diet, exercise help. The sleeping part sucks I used Tylenol pm and 1.5 melatonin . One slogan in AA I like is one day at a time, just get through the day as hard as it seems. good luck you have a community of support.
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I have been exercising(riding my bike) like crazy this last week because it helps relieve the anxiety and negative thinking. I also started going to AA which also is an amazing stress reliever. I've only been sober for 7 days but everyday I feel a little bit better.
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Welcome,
That sounds like me. I also woke up frequently at 3 AM worried about my health and if I had gone too far "this time."
I was also the same. At 8 am I swore that I would not drink that night. And I believed myself. At 5 PM I'd pull into the liquor store.
By 5 pm I was a totally different person. I drank every night. Every day it was the same cycle. Hungover every day too.
I didn't know what to do with myself the first evening so I spent hours on here, reading and reading and reading many posts.
I truly believe these are the things that got me sober. I considered myself one of the people who would never get sober.
1. Talking to and relating to others who had been through exactly what I had been through.
2. Accepting that I would never be a moderate drinker.
3. Accepting that any fun and enjoyment from alcohol was in the past. Truly in the past. I hadn't "enjoyed" a drink in a few years. Not like a normal person would.
4. Taking it one day at a time.
I repeat, take it one day at a time. I quit in June and on my first day I was already worried about New Year's Eve. I wish that was a joke. I repeated over and over to myself that I would stay in today. One day at a time.
It took me a really long time to accept that I would never be a moderate drinker. Not even like....once a year. Nope. I used to find stories of people who went from heavy drinking to light drinking, like it just "happened." Nope. I was in denial that I was a heavy drinker rather than an alcoholic. I know heavy drinkers. They don't drink like I did. Not even close. My brother drinks heavily once or twice a year with "the boys." He hardly drinks at all the rest of the time.
Welcome. You'll find a lot of support here. Support from others in the same situation was the absolute most important thing for my sobriety.
When you're alone and not talking to others, it's easy to think you're not as bad everybody else or even worse than everybody else. You'll find a lot in common with the people here.
That sounds like me. I also woke up frequently at 3 AM worried about my health and if I had gone too far "this time."
I was also the same. At 8 am I swore that I would not drink that night. And I believed myself. At 5 PM I'd pull into the liquor store.
By 5 pm I was a totally different person. I drank every night. Every day it was the same cycle. Hungover every day too.
I didn't know what to do with myself the first evening so I spent hours on here, reading and reading and reading many posts.
I truly believe these are the things that got me sober. I considered myself one of the people who would never get sober.
1. Talking to and relating to others who had been through exactly what I had been through.
2. Accepting that I would never be a moderate drinker.
3. Accepting that any fun and enjoyment from alcohol was in the past. Truly in the past. I hadn't "enjoyed" a drink in a few years. Not like a normal person would.
4. Taking it one day at a time.
I repeat, take it one day at a time. I quit in June and on my first day I was already worried about New Year's Eve. I wish that was a joke. I repeated over and over to myself that I would stay in today. One day at a time.
It took me a really long time to accept that I would never be a moderate drinker. Not even like....once a year. Nope. I used to find stories of people who went from heavy drinking to light drinking, like it just "happened." Nope. I was in denial that I was a heavy drinker rather than an alcoholic. I know heavy drinkers. They don't drink like I did. Not even close. My brother drinks heavily once or twice a year with "the boys." He hardly drinks at all the rest of the time.
Welcome. You'll find a lot of support here. Support from others in the same situation was the absolute most important thing for my sobriety.
When you're alone and not talking to others, it's easy to think you're not as bad everybody else or even worse than everybody else. You'll find a lot in common with the people here.
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