Help. I am in a crisis
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Originally Posted by thomas11 
Hi LB, it sounds like now is as good a time as any to get serious about this.
Sounds like you've got some good support lined up with mental health professionals and this forum. Intensive outpatient is probably your best option if you cannot commit to inpatient. Glad you didn't get hurt.
Sounds like you've got some good support lined up with mental health professionals and this forum. Intensive outpatient is probably your best option if you cannot commit to inpatient. Glad you didn't get hurt.
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Originally Posted by Midwest1981
Earthsteps- I am glad you are okay and that you came back to SR.
You will get a lot of support here!
You will get a lot of support here!
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I feel alone in this process. I have alienated my husband to the point of pre divorce. I have lost a few friends to my drinking. It is so quiet right now and I feel alone.
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Originally Posted by venuscat
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We are here with you.
We are here with you.
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Earthsteps- I hope things get better with your husband. Maybe they will after he sees you working on sobriety.
Have you thought about going to AA meetings or something similar? I haven't went but several here have and they have made a lot of friends and exchanged phone numbers so they can call each other when they are having a rough time
Yes and we are here for you too like Venuscat said.
Have you thought about going to AA meetings or something similar? I haven't went but several here have and they have made a lot of friends and exchanged phone numbers so they can call each other when they are having a rough time
Yes and we are here for you too like Venuscat said.
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Originally Posted by Midwest1981
Earthsteps- I hope things get better with your husband. Maybe they will after he sees you working on sobriety.
Have you thought about going to AA meetings or something similar? I haven't went but several here have and they have made a lot of friends and exchanged phone numbers so they can call each other when they are having a rough time
Yes and we are here for you too like Venuscat said.
Have you thought about going to AA meetings or something similar? I haven't went but several here have and they have made a lot of friends and exchanged phone numbers so they can call each other when they are having a rough time
Yes and we are here for you too like Venuscat said.
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Originally Posted by Midwest1981
Earthsteps- I hope things get better with your husband. Maybe they will after he sees you working on sobriety.
Have you thought about going to AA meetings or something similar? I haven't went but several here have and they have made a lot of friends and exchanged phone numbers so they can call each other when they are having a rough time
Yes and we are here for you too like Venuscat said.
Have you thought about going to AA meetings or something similar? I haven't went but several here have and they have made a lot of friends and exchanged phone numbers so they can call each other when they are having a rough time
Yes and we are here for you too like Venuscat said.
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Originally Posted by earthsteps
Thank you. I just don't know what to do. I have to fix so many things. Plus I need to work tomorrow and Sunday to make up time. I am terrified I have lost my job.
Try and get some rest if you can, and get yourself to work tomorrow.
Maybe you haven't lost your job....one step at a time.
You can't fix everything overnight love...and the most important thing to focus on right now is you. Water, something to eat, maybe a nice shower or bath to sooth you a little.
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Other than rational recovery, what else do you have in mind to "fix" yourself? For many, a wholesale change of lifestyle is needed. Like a complete makeover, but with your day to day living. And your social circle might need to be modified some. Did you have drinking buddies or did you drink mostly alone?
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I'm not all that familiar with Rational Recovery, lighteningbug, but I think it's similar to AVRT. AVRT literally saved my life; it's something you can do at home from your own computer in about fifteen minutes. But whatever works for you DO IT!
I feel so bad for you, and I have been in the same basic situation. It's demoralizing, dehumanizing even. It's shocking and humiliating to find yourself utterly out of control. But it doesn't make you worthless! You have to get free of the booze.
It's hard to give you relationship advice. It sounds like your husband is at his breaking point, and can you blame him? Put yourself in his shoes and imagine what it's like for him. You have to quit drinking to save your own life first of all- if it saves your marriage that's a great bonus. But you have to do it for yourself.
I'm glad you're back and ready to try again!
I feel so bad for you, and I have been in the same basic situation. It's demoralizing, dehumanizing even. It's shocking and humiliating to find yourself utterly out of control. But it doesn't make you worthless! You have to get free of the booze.
It's hard to give you relationship advice. It sounds like your husband is at his breaking point, and can you blame him? Put yourself in his shoes and imagine what it's like for him. You have to quit drinking to save your own life first of all- if it saves your marriage that's a great bonus. But you have to do it for yourself.
I'm glad you're back and ready to try again!
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Originally Posted by thomas11
Other than rational recovery, what else do you have in mind to "fix" yourself? For many, a wholesale change of lifestyle is needed. Like a complete makeover, but with your day to day living. And your social circle might need to be modified some. Did you have drinking buddies or did you drink mostly alone?
IOP in the evenings
Psychologist
Medical doctor
Exercise
This board
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Originally Posted by MythOfSisyphus
I'm not all that familiar with Rational Recovery, lighteningbug, but I think it's similar to AVRT. AVRT literally saved my life; it's something you can do at home from your own computer in about fifteen minutes. But whatever works for you DO IT!
I feel so bad for you, and I have been in the same basic situation. It's demoralizing, dehumanizing even. It's shocking and humiliating to find yourself utterly out of control. But it doesn't make you worthless! You have to get free of the booze.
It's hard to give you relationship advice. It sounds like your husband is at his breaking point, and can you blame him? Put yourself in his shoes and imagine what it's like for him. You have to quit drinking to save your own life first of all- if it saves your marriage that's a great bonus. But you have to do it for yourself.
I'm glad you're back and ready to try again!
I feel so bad for you, and I have been in the same basic situation. It's demoralizing, dehumanizing even. It's shocking and humiliating to find yourself utterly out of control. But it doesn't make you worthless! You have to get free of the booze.
It's hard to give you relationship advice. It sounds like your husband is at his breaking point, and can you blame him? Put yourself in his shoes and imagine what it's like for him. You have to quit drinking to save your own life first of all- if it saves your marriage that's a great bonus. But you have to do it for yourself.
I'm glad you're back and ready to try again!
I have to get myself on track. He loves me, I know, he just needs to see real progress and not listen to a bunch of empty promises.
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Originally Posted by sleepie
I possibly missed this if it was already mentioned- did the hospital give you referrals or anything for addiction treatment?
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If there is anything in your area- I suggest a meditation based group. There was one here at a center and they used this:
12 Steps on Buddha's Path
Actually I would recommend this anyway, don't be put off by the 12 Steps being in the title, I am not a 12 stepper and I really liked the simple down to earth way this is written and infusion with Buddhist concepts.
It really doesn't try and push 12 steps, AA or Buddhism it is just a plain good book for anyone recovering.
12 Steps on Buddha's Path
Actually I would recommend this anyway, don't be put off by the 12 Steps being in the title, I am not a 12 stepper and I really liked the simple down to earth way this is written and infusion with Buddhist concepts.
It really doesn't try and push 12 steps, AA or Buddhism it is just a plain good book for anyone recovering.
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Originally Posted by sleepie
If there is anything in your area- I suggest a meditation based group. There was one here at a center and they used this:
12 Steps on Buddha's Path
Actually I would recommend this anyway, don't be put off by the 12 Steps being in the title, I am not a 12 stepper and I really liked the simple down to earth way this is written and infusion with Buddhist concepts.
It really doesn't try and push 12 steps, AA or Buddhism it is just a plain good book for anyone recovering.
12 Steps on Buddha's Path
Actually I would recommend this anyway, don't be put off by the 12 Steps being in the title, I am not a 12 stepper and I really liked the simple down to earth way this is written and infusion with Buddhist concepts.
It really doesn't try and push 12 steps, AA or Buddhism it is just a plain good book for anyone recovering.
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