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Old 04-28-2016, 12:27 PM   #1 (permalink)

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I can't stop drinking. Im so over feeling the guilt and shame when I wake up after another night of drinking to much. I've tried all kinds of little tricks to stop but they don't work. I need to just stop.
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Old 04-28-2016, 12:35 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Welcome to the family. In order to stay sober you must want to be sober more than you want to drink.
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Hi Summer youl find lots of support & great advice here
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Welcome Summer, as many of said on this forum, the solution is simple, doing it is a bit harder. I wish you the best.
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Old 04-28-2016, 02:41 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I'm sorry you're struggling and I hope you check out the link Soberwolf posted.
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Are you working any kind of program? A lot of people here credit Alcoholics Anonymous ... Smart Recovery, Rational Recovery .. and others for helping them to build a foundation under their sobriety. Many others did not use such programs, but maybe you'd benefit?
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Old 04-28-2016, 05:46 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Welcome to SR summer - you'll find a ton of support here

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The change will come when you stop messing around with tricks and declaring you NEED to stop, and say (and mean it in yourself) I am not going to drink again. One day at a time I will not take a drink. Not for any reason. Not if the dog dies, there's an earthquake, it's the Queens birthday, you win the lottery, toast a wedding, get dumped, get cancer, argue with a friend, sit on a sunny beach, cosy up by a log fire, are infuriated by your relatives, stressed by your job.... ad infinitum. Because, the problem is a case of mental mislabelling. In our heads it's too easy to keep alcohol labelled as a Cure All. The Solution. And in fact, it never solves anything. It isn't even the whole problem truth be told. That's in our heads as well. Our heads are glitches up with ISMs.

There is a great thread (by Dee) about making a plan. I suggest that you read that through and start today. Honestly, the people who dither about for next week, after my birthday, next month, once I've retired, when I feel better, etc... Guess what. Those folk are still drinking. There's always another excuse if that's what we want. But why bother. It's only ourselves we are deceiving.

It won't be easy, but it'll be so worth it that it's almost fantastic.

Wishing you well in your journey to sobriety and recovery.

PS And recovery is not the same thing as sobriety. But they are equally important. Without recovery, sobriety will remain quite a painful place. On here there are thousands of people and loads of recovery methods. Ask away and people will happily help you out.
There is a saying: When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging. And this step is simple, this is the point when we decide to put down the shovel and assess how deep the hole really is.
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I'm sorry you are struggling, but I must break it to you..there are no "tricks" to getting sober and achieving recovery. In fact, it is quite the need to want recovery more than ANYTHING in the entire world and be willing to DO ANYTHING that it takes to achieve it.

Recovery is more than just getting sober, it is making life changes. Although I do not follow AA or any other "standard" recovery method, I still do anything and everything in my power to stay successful. For me it took a full psych evaluation, changing my doctor to an addiction specialist, getting a substance abuse counselor, and a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction. getting rid of my car, taking a leave of absence for school, changing my phone number, deleting contacts and face book, telling my whole family I was a heroin addict, and staying in very close contact with my family. I also started taking vitamins, exercising, eating right, learning yoga and meditation, and rediscovering religion and getting connected in the church. I also volunteer to help give back, fill up my time, and to make a positive change in the community.

You can do this, it is just a lot harder than tricks
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