Fulham75

I am off the back of a major 2 day bender which resulted in me losing my woman and messing up with work.

I am sat here lonely and ashamed and thinking about starting drinking again.

I am a mess and a loser.

Is there any hope?

doggonecarl

Yes, if you get sober and remain sober, there is hope things will turn around.

Fabela

From one mess/loser to another, there is hope.

ALinNS

The good news is there is hope from my experience, first thing I had to do was stop drinking, come up with a plan and stick to it at all costs, get help, show others by example that I am committed to change....words do not mean much at this stage. As for work just go back, if it comes up just be honest and explain you were going through a difficult time but it is now resolved, as for the relationship as I mentioned earlier lead by example and the cards will fall where they may.

All the best
Andrew

Fulham75

Thanks guys I needed to hear a voice. I have been struggling with this for so long

Fulham75

Now I am crying

Fabela

It's good to let it out. You have been struggling with this for so long.

Fulham75

Thanks guys.

D122y

You're not a loser.

You are an addict.

I am too.

Addicted, like a crack head, or a heroin addict.

Don't feel like you are drinking because things went wrong.

You are drinking because you currently physically and mentally need alcohol.

You have to get through detox and then deal w the anxiety, nervousness etc (brain damage) booze has caused.

It really not your fault you got addicted to booze, you probably didn't know.

I didn't.

Get clean. Change get your life style to deal w your addiction. Stay clean.

Alcohol is poison. Don't believe the hype.

Dee74

There is an abundance of hope.

It means a commitment to change - and although that's hard, it's not impossible.

I was an all day everyday drinker for 5 years...I'm 9 years plus sober now.

If you want it change is always available, and so is hope

what's your plan to stay sober so far?

D

Vinificent

As others have said - there is an abundance of hope!

Not sure where you are but of you can get to a meeting for support ASAP...does not matter what your personal beliefs are, etc...but there will be folks there who have been where you are right now - even worse places if you can imagine that - and they have bounced back with a vengeance and so can you! AA - SMART - Lifering...take advantage of whatever you can get to today.

And as others have said - stick to SR - read read read - especially the stickies about having a recovery plan.

Stay strong 💪

mns1

You are not a loser Fulham there is always hope as ling as you keep trying.

Don't give up

Bird615

You're no more a loser than the rest of us.
Just think: you never have to feel this way again if you don't want to and are willing to put some work into it.

entropy1964

Hi there
I'm sorry you're so down. I've been in your shoes more times than I like to count.

Drinking seems like the only option when you are feeling the way you are. But it will only make matters much worse...I think you know this. The first 24 hours is rough. Don't hesitate to get help from your dr, or go to the ER. Even medical detox....can make things much easier and give you a good start to taking back your life.

Hang in there.

Soberwolf

Glad your with us Fulham of course there is hope there is also action that might seem scary at first but is so worthwhile

Recovery meetings, writing up a plan of things youl do to remain sober, reaching out here or phoning someone you trust whenever you feel the urges or cravings so we can help, Seeing a Dr is a excellent idea, Reading recovery & spiritual books or as I like to call them food for the soul

lots to think about but try to keep a daily to-do list taking things on in bitesize chunks will really help you getting through today

least

If you get sober and stay sober, you never have to feel like this again.

KarenOskie

There sure is hope for you! I had a very hard time getting sober because I kept wanting it to just happen, I wanted to just decide not to drink and then not drink. For me, it took more than that. I have to follow my stay sober plan every day. You may need help with detox. Can you go to a doctor? And I don't know about the other help programs, but I know you can call AA and they will hook you up right away with someone who can take you to a meeting and give you lots of support. And there's us! I check in here every morning and every night as part of my stay sober plan. It helps so much.
I'm glad you reached out and I will have you in my thoughts and prayers today.

Fulham75

This site amazes me - people around the world ready to help a stranger.

Fulham75

I have called my friend Ian who is a recovering alcoholic and he is taking me to AA. I REALLY hope I can beat this.

Soberwolf

You can Fulham