Want2be

Hi, I have been sober since 12/27/15 this time. Have had 13 years 1983_1996, and 1 yr 2000 & 1 1/2 2011 &2012. Struggling since then, but more sober than not- slips here and there . I know total abstinence I is what I need. My husband is fed up, rightfully so. However, he sees no need for any change in himself, wants to continue "socializing" 5 days per week drinking and can think of nothing else we can do without drinking. He wants me to go to treatment to learn to continue that lifestyle and be happy without drinking or we should go our separate ways. It is difficult for me to be around drunks 5 days per week ( we are retired) and I think maybe being around my sober AA friends and divorce sadly has to be the answer. He says the rest of our life is too short not to do what he wants, I say the rest of my life is too short not to be sober and healthy as I can be. I hope this makes sense. What do you think k?

Dee74

Hi and welcome want2be
you'll certainly find a lot of support and understanding here.

In the end I think we each deserve a happy life

I'm sorry you and your husband seem to be at different positions on this - would he and you consider counselling or something like that?

D

D122y

Want,

You know he won't stop drinking until he is resdy.

Go with your heart.

Being alone is depressing. You know how your hubby is. Starting over is tough.

If you love him and he is not abusive, it can work.

He will stop eventually. It might be right before he dies though.

You can hang around w him sometimes and your sober friends other times.

Soberwolf

Welcome Wantobe

skywalker91

Welcome! Keep posting & you'll get tons of support here...I hope things getter better remember to take care of yourself!