So Darn Hard
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Melbourne, Victoria Australia
Posts: 1,202
Jeez, MIR - you've had so much to get through...I remember reading your heart-rending posts around the time of your daughter's death. As if that isn't bad enough (grief comes back at all odd times, doesn't it?), putting your beloved dog down on top of loss of your job and without your wife around to comfort you: well, if anyone could cope with all that without feeling pretty hideous, they'd be super-human!
I really look up to you for staying sober at such difficult times, and yes, especially when there are multiple losses. Please try to be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to just ...well, Feel Crappy. For a little while.
Sending warm regards to you, all the way across the Pacific Ocean.
Vic
I really look up to you for staying sober at such difficult times, and yes, especially when there are multiple losses. Please try to be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to just ...well, Feel Crappy. For a little while.
Sending warm regards to you, all the way across the Pacific Ocean.
Vic
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 5,937
You have had a pretty bad run just lately, MIR. I know it's scant consolation but you have survived worse, you'll get through this. Even in the worst times sobriety is such a precious gift.
At the risk of this sounding glib or silly, try to enjoy the little stuff if you can. You know how you feel when you have a toothache or headache? It can hurt so much that you can't even remember how it felt before the pain; you're sure that if only the pain would stop for an hour it would be paradise. Well, there are lots of non-toothache-days! The air is still fresh, the sun still feels good on your face and you can still enjoy a good meal. They sometimes say the best time to be happy is right now. It's hard to practice but even on the worst day there's usually some small thing to be thankful for.
At the risk of this sounding glib or silly, try to enjoy the little stuff if you can. You know how you feel when you have a toothache or headache? It can hurt so much that you can't even remember how it felt before the pain; you're sure that if only the pain would stop for an hour it would be paradise. Well, there are lots of non-toothache-days! The air is still fresh, the sun still feels good on your face and you can still enjoy a good meal. They sometimes say the best time to be happy is right now. It's hard to practice but even on the worst day there's usually some small thing to be thankful for.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
In hearing and seeing the Hockey commercial
where they say........
PUSH FALL RISE REPEAT
I can apply the same technique to my
own recovery life and sobriety program.
Push forward doing the next best
thing each day physically, verbally,
emotionally as well as spiritually
possible.
If I fail at achieving what I set out
to do that day then end that day
and be ready to rise to the next following
new ideas, suggestions in helping solve
the problem or situation im having trouble
with.
Continue to repeat till something
awesome comes up in its original
place. Something worth doing the
extra footwork over to achieve it.
Like a new job just waiting for you
to except.
where they say........
PUSH FALL RISE REPEAT
I can apply the same technique to my
own recovery life and sobriety program.
Push forward doing the next best
thing each day physically, verbally,
emotionally as well as spiritually
possible.
If I fail at achieving what I set out
to do that day then end that day
and be ready to rise to the next following
new ideas, suggestions in helping solve
the problem or situation im having trouble
with.
Continue to repeat till something
awesome comes up in its original
place. Something worth doing the
extra footwork over to achieve it.
Like a new job just waiting for you
to except.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Mmmmmm
Posts: 3,178
Grief and missing someone is a sign of a lot of love in your life, MIR.
You are on a good path sober. I hope your wife is home soon! The job will work itself out. I'm so sorry to hear about your golden.
Peace and warmer weather!
You are on a good path sober. I hope your wife is home soon! The job will work itself out. I'm so sorry to hear about your golden.
Peace and warmer weather!
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Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: Florida
Posts: 874
Clearly, you are clearly well loved and cared for by many here at SR. I hope you find some consolation in that.
If I had a magic wand I'd wave it over you. Until I get one, I'll send good thoughts and prayers your way.
If I had a magic wand I'd wave it over you. Until I get one, I'll send good thoughts and prayers your way.
I'm just a little unwell
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: USA
Posts: 2,219
Just wanted to add my support and encouragement, even though we haven't met. You're right - hard days seem harder, and emotion tends to overrule logic. This, too, shall pass. Be kind to yourself, and keep reaching out when you need to.
TSH
TSH
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 2,129
Hi MIR,
I hope it can be of some consolation that you are one of my recovery heroes and I very much appreciate your honesty.
I hope The Promises manifest themselves in your life in a way you get some relief and feel like you're getting a breather.
You're not alone.
Yer pal,
Melina
I hope it can be of some consolation that you are one of my recovery heroes and I very much appreciate your honesty.
I hope The Promises manifest themselves in your life in a way you get some relief and feel like you're getting a breather.
You're not alone.
Yer pal,
Melina
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