Hello everyone!
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Join Date: Apr 2016
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Hello everyone!
What's up everyone my name is Nate and I'm a alcoholic. I'm currently 5 days sober and been doing it on my own. I have a wife and 2 year old daughter as well as a new one on the way.
I have been drinking since I was 15 years old. It's been outta control ever since. Fights, DUIs, lost girlfriends, jobs. Always loved it. Anyway, long story short. I'm gonna lose my family and my life if I don't stop. I don't have time to go to classes considering I have 2 jobs and watch my daughter till my wife comes home. I'm just here for some support cause I have nobody to talk or vent too haha.
I'm 5 days in, that's a pretty good start and so far I feel ok. The 2nd and 3rd night were not fun at all, but I got this
I have been drinking since I was 15 years old. It's been outta control ever since. Fights, DUIs, lost girlfriends, jobs. Always loved it. Anyway, long story short. I'm gonna lose my family and my life if I don't stop. I don't have time to go to classes considering I have 2 jobs and watch my daughter till my wife comes home. I'm just here for some support cause I have nobody to talk or vent too haha.
I'm 5 days in, that's a pretty good start and so far I feel ok. The 2nd and 3rd night were not fun at all, but I got this
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Originally Posted by Delizadee 
Do make a recovery plan! I sobered up so many times on my own with plan in place. You will strengthen your resolve and learn how to break your negative habits with a strong plan in place. 
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Join Date: May 2014
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Hi, I'm new also but if there's something I'm not sure of I just type the words in the search box. There are so many helpful posts on here especially about what to expect when giving up, time frames and feelings etc. It's not an easy process and 5 days is so well done, congratulations.
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Join Date: May 2011
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Good decision Nate- you have a lot goin on.
I'm not sure I had a written down plan. But I realised I had to change a lot of things otherwise I'd end up in the same place. I did avoid "places" and "people" who were associated with drinking. I did a lot of reading of AA literature, and a few 'giving up drinking' books. My mind was racing for a few months so finding things to do was important. The other important part for me was the support of a couple of people I am close to and checking in to SR daily.
I like what some people say 'do the next right thing'
I'm not sure I had a written down plan. But I realised I had to change a lot of things otherwise I'd end up in the same place. I did avoid "places" and "people" who were associated with drinking. I did a lot of reading of AA literature, and a few 'giving up drinking' books. My mind was racing for a few months so finding things to do was important. The other important part for me was the support of a couple of people I am close to and checking in to SR daily.
I like what some people say 'do the next right thing'
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Join Date: Jan 2015
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Hi Nate,
Welcome to the other side. Since it sounds like you have detoxed successfully, the challenge now becomes maintaining your motivation and recognizing all the BS reasons for drinking again that your addicted brain will throw at you. Stick around and read up!
Welcome to the other side. Since it sounds like you have detoxed successfully, the challenge now becomes maintaining your motivation and recognizing all the BS reasons for drinking again that your addicted brain will throw at you. Stick around and read up!
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Thank you all for the words of encouragement! I will definitely come up with some sort of plan. I have made sure that my number 1 priority will be to not pick up that 1st drink. I have so much to live for.
I'm a little nervous for next weekend though... My sister in law is getting married and their family are all drinkers😳 my wife is behind me 100 percent and i know she will help. But I'm old drinking pals with a bunch of them (we moved away 3 years ago)
I'm a little nervous for next weekend though... My sister in law is getting married and their family are all drinkers😳 my wife is behind me 100 percent and i know she will help. But I'm old drinking pals with a bunch of them (we moved away 3 years ago)
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Much of the first year is a process of learning to deal with those kind of situations. You might want to avoid the stag party, if there is such a party or any similar drinkfest. As for the wedding reception or any other events you will be attending, you might want to drink colas or sparkling water with ice and a lime wedge and people will assume it's a mixed drink. Also, have some excuse ready, such as you are driving, health reasons, on the wagon for a while, etc. in case somebody asks why not. In your situation I would probably not be declaring you've quit drinking for a while. Finally, if somebody is rudely pressuring you to drink after you tell them you aren't, be prepared to withstand the pressure and get out of there. Sometimes drinking buddies can feel quite threatened when somebody leaves the pack or for whatever reason pressure you, impugn your manhood, etc.
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Join Date: May 2014
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I went out with my sister one night to a club before I had actually admitted to having an alcohol addiction (which she doesn't) but she matched me drink for drink and where I was staggering she was laughing, having fun and guiding me home. What I didn't know was that every second or more drinks that she had were water. I'm not saying have a drink just maybe your wife could get them for you and water and ice looks just like vodka. It had me fooled.
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Hi Nate - Welcome!
Here's a link regarding making a plan...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
Congrats on 5 days, you can do this.
Here's a link regarding making a plan...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
Congrats on 5 days, you can do this.
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