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Old 04-04-2016, 12:21 PM
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Day 1 -again 😔

Trying to quit- again. The longest I've ever made it was three months 5 1/2 years ago.

I'd sincerely appreciate any words of wisdom and support anyone wouldn't mind sharing.

Are there online meetings I can attend?

Thank you in advance for your help!!!
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:26 PM
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Originally Posted by CountryGal123 View Post
I'd sincerely appreciate any words of wisdom and support anyone wouldn't mind sharing.
My advice would be, if you are going to use SR, use it. Daily. Read, post, join one of the newcomers classes for accountability.

Second bit of advice. Accept you can never, ever, drink again. Commit to sobriety, and do everything you can to support that decision.

Good luck.
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:28 PM
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SR has been my lifeline for many years.

Do you have a plan for recovery? It's a good idea to come up with a plan that will work for you.
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:50 PM
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I have no idea where to start....

I'm thinking of trying meditation
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:52 PM
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The best advice I've ever heard was from our beloved CarolD. She said that in order to stay sober you must want to be sober more than you want to drink. Not easy, but simple.
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That sounds like good advice
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Old 04-04-2016, 01:12 PM
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SR and my wife are my only support. It has worked. I don't have any magical solution other than just dive in head first and don't look back. If you have a smartphone, you can take us with you everywhere you go and can post BEFORE you are tempted to drink. I believe I have done that twice and both times it worked. You can do it, and I wish you the very best.
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It's a good idea to build a sobriety plan -- one which addresses how you will stay sober daily, how you will build the support network we all need, contingencies in the event of emergency, and so on.

I'm on my phone and cannot link to Dee74's "Psst--wanna know why I always recommend a plan" thread, but search for it. It has great advice in it.
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Old 04-04-2016, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted by Thumpalumpacus View Post
It's a good idea to build a sobriety plan -- one which addresses how you will stay sober daily, how you will build the support network we all need, contingencies in the event of emergency, and so on.

I'm on my phone and cannot link to Dee74's "Psst--wanna know why I always recommend a plan" thread, but search for it. It has great advice in it.
Thank you very much!!!
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Old 04-04-2016, 01:24 PM
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What worked for me is joining with the monthly support thread. There is one here started for April 2016. Post everyday, and you will feel the support from the other members as you all will be going through the same ups and downs with your recovery. I also kept a binder of notes, affirmations, quotes, and print outs of everything I found that would keep me from drinking again. I read it everyday, and added to it everyday for months! Write down why you drank, what drove you to the bottle, and when you drank, and then change from there. Write down what drinking is taking away from you, what drinking is preventing you from doing, but most important, write down who you want to be as a sober person. Strive to be that person everyday, and trust me, you will become that person.
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Old 04-04-2016, 10:09 PM
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Welcome, having a plan is definitely key. I struggled at 90 days in the last as well, however, this time has been different, I have really stick to my plan, and SR has been a huge part of it. Read and post, join the April class, journal, exercise, write down your plan and stick with it.

I am 95 days sober today and plan on continuing on this recovery journey. It would be great to have you along on it as well!

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Old 04-05-2016, 01:18 AM
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having a plan is vital & helps immensely

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
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Old 04-05-2016, 05:28 AM
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SR has chat meetings on Tuesday and Fridays at 9p ET. They have been instrumental in my recovery. I hope we'll see you there!
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Old 04-05-2016, 08:49 AM
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CountryGal123, let's be sober buddies together! :-)
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Old 04-05-2016, 09:00 AM
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If you like to read we have a great book list on recovery topics:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ependence.html

I think balance is so important and your suggestion of meditation is a good one, also exercise of some kind.
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Old 04-05-2016, 03:48 PM
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How are you doing CountryGirl?

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