FarToGo

Yesterday I awoke with the now usual knots in my stomach, the evening before my OH had been nasty and the thinly disguised threat, "move out, I own this house and no longer want you here" was very present.
I could hardly concentrate at work, the weight of fret and worry, really heavy. How can I provide security for myself and my daughter (and my dog), going round and round in my head. I managed the day somehow.
In order to stay out of the house longer I went to see a friend, a friend who knew very little of my situation as she's friends with both of us. She felt I had worries and pressed me, I caved and told her the lot.
Well............. amazing ...........within a hour her husband was sent off to talk to an associate of theirs, within 2 hours I was viewing a house and calling my daughter to come have a look. There's a few details to sort, but I'll probably have a place to move to very soon!!
The power of friendship! The power of reaching out and asking despite reservations! A bad start to a day does not necessarily mean a bad day.................................. and on.
My budget will be a tight as a drum and will not allow for drinking, not a bad thing eh?
I wish you all an amazing day!
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Hawkeye13

Wonderful news!
What a relief and what a great friend.

FarToGo

Thanks Hawkeye, I remember your support on my recent post about this issue too. You're a great online friend! Thank you.
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least

That is good news. What a help your friend is.

Opivotal

No wonder your stomach was in knots.

I'm happy you can get out of there. That's no way to live... being threatened.

Thank goodness for the kindness of others!

Ariesagain

What a wonderful thing...I'm happy for you. Home should be a sanctuary, not a place to fear.

Soberwolf

Seconding Op's post x

I'm really happy for you FarToGo

Anna

That's fantastic, and what a wonderful friend you have! I'm so glad that you feel you can manage this new situation .

amyrose

Wonderful to hear the power of asking for help. Not trying to solve everything alone. Thanks for sharing! Excellent lesson.

FarToGo

Yes! I think this is the main lesson I'm taking from this really challenging situation.
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FarToGo

Thanks so much for your lovely and supportive responses, again. Sober Recovery really is a place to belong and a place to be proud of.
Love to all of you and sincere thanks.
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Dee74

That's fantastic news FarToGo - congratulations

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Delilah1

That is wonderful news!

FarToGo

Thanks so much Dee & Delilah, (and all). Busy times ahead, I hope to get out of here unscathed, but I know his personality will resent the lack of control now and I'm nervous. However.............. escape is very near, a new life calling and clearly I have some good mates, all things to be grateful for. The sun is shining here today, my dog is lovely and my daughter is out on a trip and happy...........
Onwards!
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Hawkeye13

Far, maybe you shouldn't share you're moving with him until right before
you go?
Or even get your stuff out with friends while he is at work or out of town?

If you think he will try to find other ways to hurt you until you go,
it might be a good idea.

Great job on moving forward and having a positive attitude

FarToGo

This has idea been rattling around, should I say when the house is certain or wait until the last minute.
I have stuff everywhere in the house, on the walls, in the attic ect.......... he's going to notice me packing for sure. I think I'll get as much in place as I can then say. All this will be over soon.
Thank you for your concern

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