An old friend died yesterday..
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Sorry for your loss.
Stick around and I can guarantee you that this will happen more than you'd like. Those are the stakes.
I can relate to wondering why i "got it" and other people haven't (or never will). It's normal to feel a sense of guilt, but I've learned first hand that nothing I could have done would have changed things for someone else, just as no one could convince me to give myself a break and try a new way of life until I was ready.
Honor his memory the best way that you can - stay clean and sober.
Stick around and I can guarantee you that this will happen more than you'd like. Those are the stakes.
I can relate to wondering why i "got it" and other people haven't (or never will). It's normal to feel a sense of guilt, but I've learned first hand that nothing I could have done would have changed things for someone else, just as no one could convince me to give myself a break and try a new way of life until I was ready.
Honor his memory the best way that you can - stay clean and sober.
Psalm 118:24
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The longer I live, the more old drinking friends pass away.
We can always dwell on what we could have done differently. Have you ever seen the movie groundhog's day? Everyday, Bill Murray tried to save the drunk from dying and wasn't able to.
I view alcoholism as a treatable disease and one of the very few many people seek treatment for. That is so sad, the denial of the disease.
Sorry for the loss of your friend
We can always dwell on what we could have done differently. Have you ever seen the movie groundhog's day? Everyday, Bill Murray tried to save the drunk from dying and wasn't able to.
I view alcoholism as a treatable disease and one of the very few many people seek treatment for. That is so sad, the denial of the disease.
Sorry for the loss of your friend
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I'm really sorry for your loss InTheEnd.
It's a type of survivors guilt I think and it's quite common. I've had friends die, some of who never drank or drugged at all, and I read stories every day of people dying younger than me.
I don't know why I'm still here - but maybe I don't have to?
I'm just grateful I am and I try to do the most I can with each new day.
In a way I think that's the best way to honour the friends I've lost.
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It's a type of survivors guilt I think and it's quite common. I've had friends die, some of who never drank or drugged at all, and I read stories every day of people dying younger than me.
I don't know why I'm still here - but maybe I don't have to?
I'm just grateful I am and I try to do the most I can with each new day.
In a way I think that's the best way to honour the friends I've lost.
D
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Join Date: Sep 2015
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ITE,
I know the feeling, might not have changed anything but I could have tried.
I think that is good to feel. Its honest, caring, kind.
Now you need to forgive yourself, and do it the next time.
And you will do it everyday you don't drink.
Your life is an example -- never really put that in words -- big responsibility.
But lets do it for your friend.
And be as kind and loving to yourself as you are for him. For me, this is the hard part...
I know the feeling, might not have changed anything but I could have tried.
I think that is good to feel. Its honest, caring, kind.
Now you need to forgive yourself, and do it the next time.
And you will do it everyday you don't drink.
Your life is an example -- never really put that in words -- big responsibility.
But lets do it for your friend.
And be as kind and loving to yourself as you are for him. For me, this is the hard part...
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