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Hello friends, today is my tenth day sober after many years of daily drinking (usually at least a bottle of wine a day). I started drinking daily to assuage my anxiety over the housing bubble (we lost a LOT of $$ on a bad housing investment and have been digging our way out since then) and two subsequent moves across the country. I have a husband and three kids I've tried to be a rock for - but as soon as they all went to bed I hit the bottle and cried. I've finally decided that my $600/month habit is not worth the money or the constant guilt and hangovers. The first three days were difficult but each day gets easier so far. I'm not naive though, I know it'll get worse before it gets better like so much of life - but I'm ready for the challenge. Thanks for being here and sharing your experiences with all of us newbies. 
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Welcome to SR, 2headeddoll; very glad you found us.
Congratulations on 10 sober days; well done.
It doesn't have to get worse before it gets better. There may be some physical and emotional effects that you experience in early sobriety but they are no where as horrible as the hangovers, headaches, nausea, self-loathing, etc. experienced during active alcoholism.
There are some SR links that I will post for you in a minute.
Congratulations on 10 sober days; well done.
It doesn't have to get worse before it gets better. There may be some physical and emotional effects that you experience in early sobriety but they are no where as horrible as the hangovers, headaches, nausea, self-loathing, etc. experienced during active alcoholism.
There are some SR links that I will post for you in a minute.
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Here are the links, 2headeddoll:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...highlight=psst
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-112-a.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ass+march+2016
Hope that the support, encouragement and understanding you find here can help you achieve lasting sobriety and recovery.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...highlight=psst
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-112-a.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ass+march+2016
Hope that the support, encouragement and understanding you find here can help you achieve lasting sobriety and recovery.
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Join Date: Feb 2016
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Welcome!! I am on day 17 myself. Keep thinking my wine store will go out of business now that I'm no longer over there. Didn't drink every day, but also didn't stop at one bottle - would be between one and a 1/2 or 2 bottles if I had enough time. One bottle was the warm up buzz. Yet I didn't want to face that I have a problem. Now I had an extra $60 from last week's allowance and that felt great!
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HI 2headeddoll, I owned a company for 13 years and got into drinking to relieve stress, and it worked....for awhile. Then it amplified the stress X 10. It was a hard lesson to learn, and I'm a slow learner. Double trouble. I believe you'll find that tackling stressful things sober is still stressful, but more manageable. wish you the best.
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Welcome to SR, 2headeddoll!
Stress (or rather my inability to handle stress) was part of my reason for relapsing. Drinking helped a little at first, but it quickly made everything worse.
I could go for days, even weeks without drinking but then one night's drinking ended up becoming several nights in a row. I drank wine but eventually a few glasses turned into one bottle and that became 1-1/2 bottles, then 2... and when that got out of hand, I switched to beer and when that made me bloated and fatter, I switched to hard stuff and when I'd fall on my face too much, I'd go back to wine and repeat the whole cycle. Sometimes I'd buy a box of wine because maybe I wouldn't drink so much if I knew I had a lot on hand.
I kept juggling all that, trying desperately to work it out that I wouldn't have to quit entirely until I finally gave up and accepted I couldn't do it anymore.
Getting sober takes some work, but it's so much easier to deal with life when I'm not full of shame and guilt or depressed and anxious and hungover.
Stress (or rather my inability to handle stress) was part of my reason for relapsing. Drinking helped a little at first, but it quickly made everything worse.
I could go for days, even weeks without drinking but then one night's drinking ended up becoming several nights in a row. I drank wine but eventually a few glasses turned into one bottle and that became 1-1/2 bottles, then 2... and when that got out of hand, I switched to beer and when that made me bloated and fatter, I switched to hard stuff and when I'd fall on my face too much, I'd go back to wine and repeat the whole cycle. Sometimes I'd buy a box of wine because maybe I wouldn't drink so much if I knew I had a lot on hand.
I kept juggling all that, trying desperately to work it out that I wouldn't have to quit entirely until I finally gave up and accepted I couldn't do it anymore.
Getting sober takes some work, but it's so much easier to deal with life when I'm not full of shame and guilt or depressed and anxious and hungover.
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