Help for Family members
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Help for Family members
I'm not quite sure what to post or where to start.
It's very complicated but I guess when it comes to substance use, it always is. I don't know what to do to try and help family members of an alcoholic adult daughter. It almost seems at times, like these people are waiting for her to die....and often say to me "well, what can we do"?
I'm surprised and shocked by listening and wonder myself if they're just exhausted, frustrated, don't care any more, numb...all of the above or what?
So where do I begin on this forum?
It's very complicated but I guess when it comes to substance use, it always is. I don't know what to do to try and help family members of an alcoholic adult daughter. It almost seems at times, like these people are waiting for her to die....and often say to me "well, what can we do"?
I'm surprised and shocked by listening and wonder myself if they're just exhausted, frustrated, don't care any more, numb...all of the above or what?
So where do I begin on this forum?
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Hi, I moved your post to a separate thread for you to get more suggestions.
AlAnon is always a good option for family members support, so you could suggest checking their local AlAnon meeting schedule.
This is the forum for Friends & Families where you can find more information and support:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
AlAnon is always a good option for family members support, so you could suggest checking their local AlAnon meeting schedule.
This is the forum for Friends & Families where you can find more information and support:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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Join Date: Feb 2015
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Hi Milo, my uncle (my dad's brother) was one of those. Family helped as much as they could until he was into his 40's, then it was just a lost cause. He went back and forth between periods of sobriety. His alcoholism was pretty severe, as in, if he took a sip, the bender didn't stop until he was in a jail cell. Sometimes it lasted a week, sometimes 3 months. He died from a overdose of heroin/cocaine at 64. He was drunk when he took the drugs. There were 5 people at his funeral. Our family (4) and his girlfriend (1).
Point being, there is only so much you can do. Wish you the best.
Point being, there is only so much you can do. Wish you the best.
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Hi Milo - welcome 
I'm an alcoholic and I fervently believe that had I not been left to find my own way out I'd probably be drinking, if not dead.
I do understand that the 'detach with love' idea is hard for many family members to accept and practice though.
You'll find some alternative schools of thought in this forum.
Secular Connections for Friends and Family - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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I'm an alcoholic and I fervently believe that had I not been left to find my own way out I'd probably be drinking, if not dead.
I do understand that the 'detach with love' idea is hard for many family members to accept and practice though.
You'll find some alternative schools of thought in this forum.
Secular Connections for Friends and Family - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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Welcome to the family. 
I too would suggest AlAnon for support for you, also the friends and family forum here.
It's hard to detach with love. When I was drinking, my daughters didn't want to be around me.
I hope your family member can get sober for good. But it's up to her to decide to get sober, no one else can make that choice.
I too would suggest AlAnon for support for you, also the friends and family forum here.It's hard to detach with love. When I was drinking, my daughters didn't want to be around me.
I hope your family member can get sober for good. But it's up to her to decide to get sober, no one else can make that choice.
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