Hello/introduction - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Go Back   SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information >
Register Blogs FAQ Members List Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read





Reply
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 02-29-2016, 01:54 PM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: San Francisco
Posts: 3

Hello/introduction


Hello. Well, I am not really sure where exactly all this is going. I enjoy drinking and am wondering if I am an habitual drinker or an alcoholic. I have been a heavy drinker for most of my adult life with long intervals in between where the circumstances curbed my heavy drinking--ie. school or relationships. For the past year I have been on a tear. I left an old relationship and got into a new one and am now married with a whole lot of guilt about the last relationship. Oh, no reason to go into all of it except that I feel completely off balance and crazy. Alcohol helps and it doesn't. That's probably not an unfamiliar statement. Don't look forward to not being able to go out for a beer (though that is few and far between compared to how much I stay in and get loaded).
I fear if I don't do something about this I will destroy my existing relationship, so I guess I better get the show on the road. But, mostly, I want clarity for myself and some peace of spirit and mind.
kellicrow is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to kellicrow For This Useful Post:
Augustine1965 (03-01-2016), ChloeRose63 (02-29-2016), chrcarlson (02-29-2016), Dee74 (02-29-2016), greens (03-01-2016), least (02-29-2016), SoberLeigh (02-29-2016), Soberpotamus (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 01:59 PM   #2 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 77,831
Blog Entries: 32
Welcome to the family. If alcohol is causing problems, it's best to quit drinking. I gave it up over six years ago and my life is the best it's ever been.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley
least is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Augustine1965 (03-01-2016), ChloeRose63 (02-29-2016), Dee74 (02-29-2016), greens (03-01-2016), teatreeoil007 (03-01-2016), Zebra1275 (03-01-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 02:06 PM   #3 (permalink)
Member
 
SoberLeigh's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 113,825
Welcome to SR, kellicrow. As least already said, if alcohol is causing a problem in your life, it's best to give it up.

I adore sobriety!!!!
SoberLeigh is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to SoberLeigh For This Useful Post:
ChloeRose63 (02-29-2016), Dee74 (02-29-2016), least (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 02:09 PM   #4 (permalink)
Administrator
 
Anna's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 51,270
Welcome!

I wouldn't worry about whether you call yourself an habitual drinker or an alcoholic. Does alcohol cause problems in your life? If so, then stopping drinking is the answer. You will find lots of support here.
__________________
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

Marianne Williamson
Anna is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Anna For This Useful Post:
ChloeRose63 (02-29-2016), Dee74 (02-29-2016), mav (02-29-2016), Ruby2 (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 02:28 PM   #5 (permalink)
mav
300!
 
mav's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 365
Welcome to SR! Making a first post here is usually a good indicator to yourself that you need to get it under control.
mav is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to mav For This Useful Post:
ChloeRose63 (02-29-2016), Dee74 (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 02:28 PM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: San Francisco
Posts: 3
Thank you for your replies. Very practical advice!!
kellicrow is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to kellicrow For This Useful Post:
chrcarlson (02-29-2016), Dee74 (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 02:38 PM   #7 (permalink)
My Own Muse
 
ChloeRose63's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Lake Geneva, Wisconsin
Posts: 14,861
Welcome, kellicrow. Yep, the advice is practical but, it does get deeper when you start to think about why you drink in the first place. But for now it is great to have you here posting. Keep in touch. It really is a great place to express yourself without any judgement and lots of support.♡CR
ChloeRose63 is online now   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to ChloeRose63 For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 03:01 PM   #8 (permalink)
Member
 
PurpleKnight's Avatar
 

Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Ireland
Posts: 25,823
Welcome to the Forum Kellicrow!!
PurpleKnight is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to PurpleKnight For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 03:33 PM   #9 (permalink)
Member
 
amyrose's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: New York, NY
Posts: 130
Welcome! Glad you found the forum. Agree to read up on all the great information here. I am 14 days in and this site as been a wonderful resource!
amyrose is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to amyrose For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-29-2016)
Old 02-29-2016, 03:53 PM   #10 (permalink)
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 175,214
Blog Entries: 1
Hi and welcome Kellicrow

I agree with the others - if you've been on a tear for a year, chances are your drinking is problematic,

You'll find a ton of support and good ideas here

D
__________________
Dee74 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-01-2016, 05:01 AM   #11 (permalink)
What's the world coming to when you can't trust an recovering alcoholic ex degenerate gambler huh ?
 
Soberwolf's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 66,420
Blog Entries: 4
Welcome

Some useful links

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ful-links.html
Soberwolf is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-01-2016, 04:30 PM   #12 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: San Francisco
Posts: 3
Thank you all for your welcoming comments. I will check out all the resources. It is time to get down to some real thinking about myself and some serious honesty. I can see this is a good place ...I just need to figure it out. I am not good at threads. Today is a good day!! Did not stop off for a beer after work...as I knew it would lead to another.
kellicrow is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-01-2016, 07:47 PM   #13 (permalink)
Member
 
Zebra1275's Avatar
 

Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 9,201
What I learned the hard way, is that alcoholism is progressive. As you grow older your tolerance increases, and you reach a point where you body's ability to recover every morning decreases. It's not pretty.

Get off the merry-go-round early.
Zebra1275 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-02-2016, 12:19 AM   #14 (permalink)
Member
 
Trees39's Avatar
 

Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 1,776
Hi, getting off the merry go round also helps with clearer thinking. The crazed feelings lessen over time without booze and things fall into place.
Peace starts to descend but is shattered by drinking.... That's what I found anyway..

Best of luck xx
Trees39 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:50 AM.