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Old 02-27-2016, 11:01 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How many of you have someone to call when things get really bad?
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:02 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Maaaaybe.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:04 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Hi Pleny...are you doing OK?
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:06 PM   #4 (permalink)
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If things got very serious in your life, would you be telling someone about it, have someone to drive you to the hospital, be an emergency contact, someone just there to know where you were and they might care enough to help. Or bend an ear.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:06 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I guess I do have family but I don't remember really having stuff get that bad since I quit drinking. But you have us, Penny!
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:07 PM   #6 (permalink)
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All I'm saying is, it's a blessing. More than most of you know. If one person out there cares where you go. And if you can call someone, you're not alone. Please appreciate that. It's worth so much more than you know.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:08 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I don't have anyone. I've never been so aware of that in my life.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:10 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I don't have anyone. I've never been so aware of that in my life.
Is everything okay?
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:13 PM   #9 (permalink)
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No one appreciates what they have. Please just appreciate what you have.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:15 PM   #10 (permalink)
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For what its worth, you got SR
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I'm sorry your feeling alone Penny. you might think about activities you could get involved in where you would be meeting people or maybe volunteering somewhere. There is a strong fellowship in AA??
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:19 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Um... Alone. Most people don't understand that because they actually do have people in their lives who care and are there when you call. I'm not asking for advice on how to be less alone. I am alone and I'm facing that. I'm just asking all of you to appreciate what you have.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:23 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I'm very appreciative.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:27 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I'm very appreciative, and I hope you know you aren't alone on here. I know it is virtual, but I am sending lots of love your way right now.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:31 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I was alone for many years. My drinking pushed me into the middle of a big bubble that kept everyone else out...of course that's a double edged sword.

I've repopulated my life with people I love and who love me.

I think there's the same change to do that for everyone

Any one who posts here is never really alone anyway - not the way we used to be

I hope you're doing ok, Plenny

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Old 02-27-2016, 11:35 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I do appreciate it. Very, very much. Because it wasn't always the way. It took a lot for me to find the willingness to take the steps needed to get to where I am now, and it wasn't easy. I'm very aware that it was something that I had to work for. And have to continue to work for by being that person that others can call and rely on.

So, you know how you can change it (presumably, as you don't want any advice or ideas about that) - the questions is, will you change it? I suppose it boils down to whether you want to dwell in the problem, or work on making things better.

I hope you feel better soon.
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Hi Plenny

You're right, a lot of people don't appreciate what they have, usually until they lose it.

Being sober helped me appreciate my family and friends and daily gratitude of how fortunate I was to be able to appreciate sobriety.

I hope you can find friends to share your life with, Plenny. You have us also.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:41 PM   #18 (permalink)
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It makes me feel good to know that people are out there appreciating what they have.

I have wonderful friends. We help each other out in many ways. But I know very well that no one is obligated to be by my side if things get serious and no one will. There's no unconditional love here.

So just keep appreciating that you do have that in your lives. Whether you are friendly or not. If you've got people, real people, you can call if things get bad, keep on appreciating them.
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Obligation and unconditional love aren't the same as having 'someone to call when things get bad'.
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Exactly what D said I wish I had this place when I first got sober I met a lot of ppl good ppl at AA and they gave me telephone numbers when I asked felt weird at first but litrelly a phone line became a life line
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