The I've done" Thread Lied Cheated Stolen Had affairs Driven Drunk (caught and not caught) Fought Lusted Covered-up Destroyed stuff - my own and others' Hurt people - mostly emotionally Endangered people - friends, family and strangers Puked at work Puked on loved one's floors Gone to the bathroom in places that weren't the bathroom Teased others Judged others Manipulated others Encouraged others to harm others with their own harmful behavior Hurt others with my words Hurt others with my actions Made a list of wrongs..... yes... and that list seems to reel off with new remembrances even to this day, as my sober self reviews the tapes of yesteryear. Each time, I try to figure out how to accept, self-forgive, move on.... All of us humans have baggage. Those of us who've been addicts and alcoholics maybe more than the average human.... And all of us must come to terms with those things along the way, or suffer their burden until we do. |
I could list everything but it can be summed up pretty easily: I lost my sense of self. I didn't recognize myself anymore. |
yep... did that one, too... |
Fallen flat on my face and busted it Fallen downstairs and split my head open drunken texts passed out most nights puked in the taxi but in my handbag n ruined bag purse fone n camera plus most of what you wrote hun! xxx |
Everything on your list except "have affairs". I'll add "died" to your list. ~Bunnez |
I crossed my own boundaries and broke my own rules. |
Lied- to family, to friends to work left kids home alone to get more alcohol drove drunk became distant to family siphoned money out of joint back accounts to pay for my alcohol said and did rude things to friends and family |
Just curious (nothing implied) -- Do you find it helpful to re-visit these lists? For me, it's better to rectify what I can and then re-focus my self image toward the wonderful things I am TODAY, rather than the crummy things I was in the PAST. Again, no criticism implied. I'm just curious about how you use these memories to support your current self esteem. Thanks for sharing! |
Originally Posted by SoberinSyracuse
(Post 5809717)
Just curious (nothing implied) -- Do you find it helpful to re-visit these lists? For me, it's better to rectify what I can and then re-focus my self image toward the wonderful things I am TODAY, rather than the crummy things I was in the PAST. Again, no criticism implied. I'm just curious about how you use these memories to support your current self esteem. Thanks for sharing! |
Originally Posted by SoberinSyracuse
(Post 5809717)
Just curious (nothing implied) -- Do you find it helpful to re-visit these lists? For me, it's better to rectify what I can and then re-focus my self image toward the wonderful things I am TODAY, rather than the crummy things I was in the PAST. Again, no criticism implied. I'm just curious about how you use these memories to support your current self esteem. Thanks for sharing! In the beginning these threads helped me, gave me some sort of comfort, that I'm not sure I can even articulate. Now, I'm completely neutral to them. In fact, I'm not even sure why I opened this thread, usually I don't, but I did, so here's MY thoughts on your query. |
was responsable for the death of another human while i was drunk. drank for about 14 more years. |
Originally Posted by SoberinSyracuse
(Post 5809717)
Just curious (nothing implied) -- Do you find it helpful to re-visit these lists? For me, it's better to rectify what I can and then re-focus my self image toward the wonderful things I am TODAY, rather than the crummy things I was in the PAST. Again, no criticism implied. I'm just curious about how you use these memories to support your current self esteem. Thanks for sharing! I find it helpful to occasionally revisit these sort of lists to; remind me over again why it's so important to me to maintain sobriety remind me how far I've come reconnect with my gratitude these days are behind me I find it helpful to share these sort of lists to; help others see that maybe they're not alone help others see that maybe the track they're on is one they might want to think about changing :grouphug: |
FO - you're post reminded me of this quote; “Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean.” Alex Haley Brave New World I try not to drive down the street looking in the rearview mirror - totally agree when we get sober it's like slamming the brakes on and all the "crap in the back seat" comes flying forward. I clean up the wreckage best I can, try not repeat and move on. When more is revealed, I make amends where possible....... Jazz I did; Not enough for many Too much for some Whatever impulsive gratification I could could find |
I did a ton of stupid stuff when I was drinking. It destroyed who I was. I can say since Feb of 2013 I have done nothing I need be ashamed of. That stupid stuff seems a lifetime away. |
The solution was simple. I just lowered my standards |
My list is a reminder to put me off ever wanting another alcoholic drink! Im on Day 7 and as yet have no desire to drink ever again because of this list. One day I won't need it xxx |
Originally Posted by MIRecovery
(Post 5809883)
The solution was simple. I just lowered my standards |
I am fortunate I haven't been caught for drunk driving or hurt anyone. But if I drink it is only a matter of time those things happen. If I drink, I will drive. Other than that the two major things that bother me are losing the trust of those around me and the fact that I've spent so long being drunk I have no accomplishments in my life. I've neglected responsibilities. Numb mind, ignore reality, repeat. Day in .. day out. The silver lining I can see though is I believe that once I am strong in my recovery (Day 4 at the moment), I think I will have a greater appreciation for life. If I had never been to hell and come back I may not be able to develop a sense of gratitude. Work in progress .. but that's what I want once the dust settles. |
Originally Posted by spadge
(Post 5809886)
My list is a reminder to put me off ever wanting another alcoholic drink! Im on Day 7 and as yet have no desire to drink ever again because of this list. One day I won't need it xxx |
Originally Posted by silentrun
(Post 5809887)
I tried that MIR. It got to the point I couldn't lower them fast enough to keep going. |
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