Dream of attending a party
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Dream of attending a party
Woke up this morning in a bit of a panic. I had a dream that I was having to attend a party and all my thoughts were of "I can't do this, it's too soon, I'm going to give in, maybe just one drink will make me look like I'm less of a freak, but I know what will happen, that one drink will open the floodgates, maybe not initially but soon I'll find myself drinking til I pass out etc"
It really scared me but I'm glad it was just a dream. I think I'm going to be a long way off attending anything were people are drinking. Just had to share. Not sure what my point is.
It really scared me but I'm glad it was just a dream. I think I'm going to be a long way off attending anything were people are drinking. Just had to share. Not sure what my point is.
I had very vivid dreams when I stopped drinking, a lot of them included nightmares of me getting drunk again. I think its okay, its just our mind processing the weird thoughts we got going on. Your awake and you are in control!
Perhaps you've got some healthy fear going on there and are able to explore in a dream stateI had a nightmare last night too followed by vivid dreams all night long of various things, people I've known...dreaming in color sometimes
I suppose the point to sharing any anxiety (whether it be on here, with a friend, in the rooms of AA, with a sponsor, etc.) is that is takes the power out of the fear. When we keep our fears as secrets, and allow them to take up head and heart space, that's when they grow in strength and can take over.
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Thanks guys, yeah I think sharing and reading is the best thing. If I bottle it up I go crazy with endless chatter and negativity. I think my night sweats are lessening too, maybe the dreams will calm down a bit as well.
I still have dreams like that on occasion. Just know that if you do go to a party in the future nobody will find it weird that we aren't drinking and that is just your addictive voice talking.
lots of crazy drinking dreams/nightmares early on. i still remember coming out of one of them drenched in sweat. sat up in bed not sure where i was. i was very relieved to see i was in my own bed and it was just a dream.
im very glad ya see it wise to not attend events where alcohol we be a theme. it took me a while before i did. it was a charity quiz night at a vfw. i learned a lit that night:
2 women sittin behind us havin a conversation during a break. both had been drinking pretty heavy. both talking completely different topics. i remembered doing that. it was nuts.
not every there was drinking alcohol! there were a LOT of people NOT drinking!
all them years i thought EVERYONE at events like that drank.
then after a few more social events( weddings,concerts, birthday parties)
i realized not everyone drinks.
i have 3 requirement attending events with alcohol:
the right motive
fit spiritual condition
and escape route
im very glad ya see it wise to not attend events where alcohol we be a theme. it took me a while before i did. it was a charity quiz night at a vfw. i learned a lit that night:
2 women sittin behind us havin a conversation during a break. both had been drinking pretty heavy. both talking completely different topics. i remembered doing that. it was nuts.
not every there was drinking alcohol! there were a LOT of people NOT drinking!
all them years i thought EVERYONE at events like that drank.
then after a few more social events( weddings,concerts, birthday parties)
i realized not everyone drinks.
i have 3 requirement attending events with alcohol:
the right motive
fit spiritual condition
and escape route
I also have the occasional dream of drinking...usually I just have a sip but yeah it's stressful as my sobriety is unwinding before my eyes! Well my dream eyes... Yes keep on sharing. In any given struggle you are facing, 9 times out of 10 at least a handful of us have experienced the same thing!
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"Look like a freak?" Not sure what kind of party this was (in your dream), but in real life "normal" situations, nobody will think you're a freak for not drinking.
But I'm talking about normal grownup situations -- not sorority parties, of course.
It's always a relief to wake up from the drinking dreams, is it not?
But I'm talking about normal grownup situations -- not sorority parties, of course.
It's always a relief to wake up from the drinking dreams, is it not?
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I think a lot of it is that I'll look like a freak to those people who are problem drinkers themselves and I have a fair few of them in my life. The last couple of days I've really had an eye opener about who my friends are. There's one person who won't leave me alone though and swaps between being supportive to being aggressive about my depression. Unbelievable!!!
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^^^^sometimes my dreams help "sort out" things in my mind while asleep. Truly that's what dreams are for. Fear can be unpleasant but really good for us as a reminder.
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Actually that's a really good way of looking at it. It reminds me of how you can have trouble sleeping when you are in the depths of depression and anxiety-because that's when the brain sorts everything out and if you're filled with fear then your brain doesn't want to commit those things to memory so won't let you sleep.
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