Actions speak louder than words...
Actions speak louder than words...
When I was a drinker I made a lot of promises to loved ones, to friends and to myself about how I knew what was wrong with me now....I'd learned my lessons and I'd do better...
I really meant those declarations too - but I did nothing to back them up, and sooner or later (mostly sooner) I was back drinking and apologising for myself and my actions again, and declaring anew that I'd got it now....
After a while I gained a reputation as a kingsized BSer.
That got me indignant - I was very honest and trustworthy...I was very principled - how dare they!
Now I can see of course what they saw...a drunk mouthing off and paying lip service getting drunk over and over again.
When I eventually got sober, I made no declarations - I just got sober and stayed that way. I let my actions do the talking...and slowly, people trusted me again.
That was one of the great gifts of recovery
My days as a drunk BSer are long gone - and people can appreciate the principled honest and trustworthy guy I aim to be and hope I really am.
Be the person you want to be.
Put into your recovery what you want to get out of it.
I promise you won't be disappointed
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I really meant those declarations too - but I did nothing to back them up, and sooner or later (mostly sooner) I was back drinking and apologising for myself and my actions again, and declaring anew that I'd got it now....
After a while I gained a reputation as a kingsized BSer.
That got me indignant - I was very honest and trustworthy...I was very principled - how dare they!
Now I can see of course what they saw...a drunk mouthing off and paying lip service getting drunk over and over again.
When I eventually got sober, I made no declarations - I just got sober and stayed that way. I let my actions do the talking...and slowly, people trusted me again.
That was one of the great gifts of recovery
My days as a drunk BSer are long gone - and people can appreciate the principled honest and trustworthy guy I aim to be and hope I really am.
Be the person you want to be.
Put into your recovery what you want to get out of it.
I promise you won't be disappointed
D
I totally get this! I have got scruples drunk or sober, I just cannot live up to them. One thing I realized recently is that, even sober, I cannot act in accord with my own values without help. For me, that help comes from SR, from therapy, and from the AA program and meetings.
I agree Dee. It's action that makes the difference. Inaction (as in just resolving not to drink) is a weak plan for sobriety. It looks to me like you currently have at least 124,152 separate bits of action related to your recovery. I'd say that's quite a quantity of action.
Action is key.
Action is key.
I agree Dee. It's action that makes the difference. Inaction (as in just resolving not to drink) is a weak plan for sobriety. It looks to me like you currently have at least 124,152 separate bits of action related to your recovery. I'd say that's quite a quantity of action.
Action is key.
Action is key.
Not all of those posts are winners awuh...I started slow LOL
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Yes, Dee.
I'm having the same experience. For me, this basic accomplishment became a corner stone for others. -other instances where I say I'm going to do something and then ACTUALLY DO IT!
It's great.
I'm having the same experience. For me, this basic accomplishment became a corner stone for others. -other instances where I say I'm going to do something and then ACTUALLY DO IT!
It's great.
There's quite a bit of "talking the walk" for drinkers, isn't there?
When I was talking about quitting instead of quitting by quitting,
I always thought I knew something, or had something, others didn't.
That turned out to be BS too. . .
When I was talking about quitting instead of quitting by quitting,
I always thought I knew something, or had something, others didn't.
That turned out to be BS too. . .
Strong, heartfelt and timely post! Outside SR I was taught to watch their feet and not their lips.
Love I discovered is an action word.....
Thanks for your humble, gentle leadership. You carry the message as well as anyone I know.
Love I discovered is an action word.....
Thanks for your humble, gentle leadership. You carry the message as well as anyone I know.
You can have reasons, or you can have results, but you can't have both.
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It's good for people thinking about sobriety, or early in sobriety to hear this message. The only thing that really counts is what we do.
Wise words and great post
The alcoholic sees himself through the eyes of his intentions. The world see him through the eyes of his actions.
In recovery or active addiction it is what we do that makes the difference not what we say or think.
The alcoholic sees himself through the eyes of his intentions. The world see him through the eyes of his actions.
In recovery or active addiction it is what we do that makes the difference not what we say or think.
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