Actions speak louder than words...
OK, several people have asked me if I was speaking to them here.
When I start a thread it's usually in response to something, but I wasn't writing to anyone in particular, and definitely not trying to make anyone paranoid.
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When I start a thread it's usually in response to something, but I wasn't writing to anyone in particular, and definitely not trying to make anyone paranoid.
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Dee's honesty and reaching out have been one of the fundamentals to my recovery.
I know Dee wasn't looking for such comments when he wrote the OP but his actions here at SR do speak louder than any promise he may once have made.
I told virtually no-one when I decided to quit finally. I knew that saying I was giving up alcohol would be meaningless unless people saw it.
They see it. It turns out that doing it is way more effective than anything I could say.
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I think guilty of that too i say alot and dont follow up on it - i didnt think i was a bser, i thought i simply didnt have the time! How can i find time im busy drinking or being severely hung over!! Not my fault **** happens right ..... Lol these were the deluded things id tell myself - i look forward to being able to follow through on what i say, that would be a great gift for me - great post dee
Brave words from a good man - I took what D said as he knows what it's like as he's been there he was very honest which I commend & his words were very true & more importantly he don't want no one suffering
A excellent message D
A excellent message D
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I agree Thump, Dee does have a gift in electronic communication. He can be firm, supportive and motivating all in once sentence.
I believe Dee is talking to all of us. Himself included. At the very least his words ring true with this alcoholic. I may be better than I was but that does not mean I have a long way to go.
I agree, MI - this post is for everyone, even those with some sobriety under their belts. We don't become perfect when we are sober, we still have a long way to go in the integrity department. Honesty and dependability are building blocks for a long-term sober foundation. We've all BS'ed for enough for two lifetimes, haven't we? Walking the walk feels damn good after a while.
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Love this. And while you're not fishing for compliments, you get one from me Dee. I've never come across anyone as insightful and kind and articulate yet softly direct. It's a gift.
I was never confronted with being an alcoholic so the only person I was lying to all those times was myself and that was enough. And I lied to myself plenty - in the end, even though there is a part of me that just doesn't want to go alcohol free forever, I just march on, push it out of the way, hope that in the morning I'll be grateful I didn't cave. And over time, that part of me is getting smaller and smaller and oh so much more manageable. Actions don't just show others you're serious, they show yourself you're serious.
I was never confronted with being an alcoholic so the only person I was lying to all those times was myself and that was enough. And I lied to myself plenty - in the end, even though there is a part of me that just doesn't want to go alcohol free forever, I just march on, push it out of the way, hope that in the morning I'll be grateful I didn't cave. And over time, that part of me is getting smaller and smaller and oh so much more manageable. Actions don't just show others you're serious, they show yourself you're serious.
I agree, MI - this post is for everyone, even those with some sobriety under their belts. We don't become perfect when we are sober, we still have a long way to go in the integrity department. Honesty and dependability are building blocks for a long-term sober foundation. We've all BS'ed for enough for two lifetimes, haven't we? Walking the walk feels damn good after a while.
I love the line:
What do you get when a horse thief sobers up?
You get a sober horse thief.
My natural state is to lie and just because I'm sober changes nothing. I work on being honest and trustworthy everyday of my life
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