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Old 01-18-2016, 10:47 AM
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Why ask what can be gained? Ask what you can lose in sobriety.

At the end of my AA meeting on Saturday, it was closed with a simple statement that REALLY had a simple yet drastic affect on my day to day recovery.

I'm just past a year sober, but have been caught up in the what is there to be gained from this? The old what's in it for me mentality....

Basically the message was this. Don't focus on what can be GAINED from sobriety. But be grateful for what you can LOSE from sobriety.

Just to name one.

I can lose, the feeling of isolation (have AA, and SR friends now that understand and relate to my past experiences.)

So...What are some of the other things you can LOSE from sobriety?

Have a great day SR.
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Old 01-18-2016, 10:49 AM
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The feeling of low self-worth.
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Old 01-18-2016, 11:58 AM
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Seriously excellent thought provoking thread Finding top class on reaching a year bud

For me it is everything
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Old 01-18-2016, 11:59 AM
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That awful hungover feeling in the morning.
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Old 01-18-2016, 12:05 PM
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I have lost the reflection of my despair visible in loved ones eyes..........it has been supplanted with hope!

good thread!
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Credit card debt. :-) Also, people talk about losing your sanity. What about losing your INsanity?
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One big one for me: liberation from the wretched feelings of guilt, shame and remorse.
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Old 01-18-2016, 12:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Fly N Buy View Post
I have lost the reflection of my despair visible in loved ones eyes..........it has been supplanted with hope!

good thread!
Beautiful, Fly N Buy!!!!!!!
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Old 01-18-2016, 12:13 PM
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I lost the anxiety and fear that shackled me when I was trying to complete normal, every day tasks. Lost weight, too
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I lost remorse, guilt and shame.
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I lost remorse, guilt and shame.
Lost the will to die... hoping to live. ....
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Old 01-18-2016, 01:31 PM
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In sobriety I'm loosing my nihilistic tendencies.
I've also lost feeling sorry for myself all the time.
I've lost having zero self respect.
I've lost those blood curdling mornings and those dreaded evenings
All the drama I missed out on since I started recovery... certainly counts as a loss as well.
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Old 01-18-2016, 01:39 PM
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Great job on passing the year mark Finding!

In sobriety, I've lost the selfishness that comes with drinking. My days no longer revolve around when I am going to get my next drink, how much I will be able to drink before bed time, how I am going to sneak my drinking into the day and night...

So glad i've lost that in sobriety.
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