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My relapses have also happened during "free time/no special plans," so maybe the lesson here is that this can be dangerous during early sobriety.
I'm starting my program tomorrow, and the recovery coach warned me that I would be kept very, very busy for good reason.
Definitely, going forward, I'll try to keep myself busy in the first days and weeks. Do you think that would be helpful for you too?
Glad you're back on the horse!!!! :-)
I'm starting my program tomorrow, and the recovery coach warned me that I would be kept very, very busy for good reason.
Definitely, going forward, I'll try to keep myself busy in the first days and weeks. Do you think that would be helpful for you too?
Glad you're back on the horse!!!! :-)
Hi csaw --
You sound like me when I got to this site. I'd known I had a problem with alcohol for at least 16 years -- I remember telling someone I was "probably" an alcoholic in the '90s. But I so firmly believed that being an alcoholic was my nature, I literally had *no idea* how to stop or what it would take. I remember the first time I seriously tried to quit, and couldn't make it past 3 days. Several times in a row. I was shocked!
This site helped me realize that the lure of alcohol is extremely powerful for people like us, and doesn't just go away when we dry out some. If you want to stay sober, you have to plan in advance tactics that will help you get through the hard times:
For instance, you can do a daily commitment here on the 24 hour thread, and/or join the January 2016 sobriety class for support. You can go to AA, or work through AVRT or another program. You can see a counselor. Read a lot about alcoholism. It will enlighten you & bolster your commitment.
In the early days, simple tricks also help. Ice cream really does help with cravings. You can change routines to avoid passing certain liquor stores and bars. Some people throw out their drinking glassware. If you drive to work, you might leave all but your license and keys at home, so you won't be able to buy a bottle if tempted. And of course, I advise you not to keep *any* liquor in the house.
Good luck and keep posting!
You sound like me when I got to this site. I'd known I had a problem with alcohol for at least 16 years -- I remember telling someone I was "probably" an alcoholic in the '90s. But I so firmly believed that being an alcoholic was my nature, I literally had *no idea* how to stop or what it would take. I remember the first time I seriously tried to quit, and couldn't make it past 3 days. Several times in a row. I was shocked!
This site helped me realize that the lure of alcohol is extremely powerful for people like us, and doesn't just go away when we dry out some. If you want to stay sober, you have to plan in advance tactics that will help you get through the hard times:
For instance, you can do a daily commitment here on the 24 hour thread, and/or join the January 2016 sobriety class for support. You can go to AA, or work through AVRT or another program. You can see a counselor. Read a lot about alcoholism. It will enlighten you & bolster your commitment.
In the early days, simple tricks also help. Ice cream really does help with cravings. You can change routines to avoid passing certain liquor stores and bars. Some people throw out their drinking glassware. If you drive to work, you might leave all but your license and keys at home, so you won't be able to buy a bottle if tempted. And of course, I advise you not to keep *any* liquor in the house.
Good luck and keep posting!
My relapses have also happened during "free time/no special plans," so maybe the lesson here is that this can be dangerous during early sobriety.
I'm starting my program tomorrow, and the recovery coach warned me that I would be kept very, very busy for good reason.
Definitely, going forward, I'll try to keep myself busy in the first days and weeks. Do you think that would be helpful for you too?
Glad you're back on the horse!!!! :-)
I'm starting my program tomorrow, and the recovery coach warned me that I would be kept very, very busy for good reason.
Definitely, going forward, I'll try to keep myself busy in the first days and weeks. Do you think that would be helpful for you too?
Glad you're back on the horse!!!! :-)
Last edited by Dee74; 01-10-2016 at 07:47 PM.
csaw,
you mentioned how you're really enjoying this sober thing.
cool.
you enjoyed it right back to drinking....something doesn't compute there.
just mentioning it in case you DO decide to dwell on this all a little bit, even though you say you aren't going to.
i found that dwelling on it was not just a road to misery, but also finally part of the most honest looking and seeing.
it's great you're asking for help, and no-one is attacking you.
help comes in different packages.
you mentioned how you're really enjoying this sober thing.
cool.
you enjoyed it right back to drinking....something doesn't compute there.
just mentioning it in case you DO decide to dwell on this all a little bit, even though you say you aren't going to.
i found that dwelling on it was not just a road to misery, but also finally part of the most honest looking and seeing.
it's great you're asking for help, and no-one is attacking you.
help comes in different packages.
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: In the Nightmare in my head
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I'm glad you are back csaw.
I don't think people were make you feel bad for the "pretend it didn't happen" comment.
I think that they are worried that the AV will try and play on that at some other point. Trying to convince you that you can drink tonight ... one day it might not only last one night.
Stay strong.
I don't think people were make you feel bad for the "pretend it didn't happen" comment.
I think that they are worried that the AV will try and play on that at some other point. Trying to convince you that you can drink tonight ... one day it might not only last one night.
Stay strong.
Day 3 and im feeling pretty good, but a little lethargic as well. Got the day off and have a ton of housework to do, but im glued to this site and cant get off my butt. Did I trade one addiction for another, much more healthy addiction? Lol I guess housework can wait, hell I never bothered with it before anyway.
What are some good ways to deal with stress? I'm having trouble figuring out how to wind down after a stressful day of work without alcohol. When I get home I'm still totally wired, and aching, and I don't know how to calm down.
I don't like soaking in bathtubs..I know thats what all the ladies will suggest lol
I don't like soaking in bathtubs..I know thats what all the ladies will suggest lol
I usually come home and immediately come here. It refocuses me on something besides myself and the cares of the day.
Then I get a hot cup of tea and a snack. I find a little sugar and a little fat give me enough comfort so I feel ok going on to the next thing without a craving . At first I had 3 spoons of ice cream before I cooked dinner (it used to be 3 snorts) but now I have hot tea and buttered crackers!
You're asking the right questions!
Then I get a hot cup of tea and a snack. I find a little sugar and a little fat give me enough comfort so I feel ok going on to the next thing without a craving . At first I had 3 spoons of ice cream before I cooked dinner (it used to be 3 snorts) but now I have hot tea and buttered crackers!
You're asking the right questions!
What are some good ways to deal with stress? I'm having trouble figuring out how to wind down after a stressful day of work without alcohol. When I get home I'm still totally wired, and aching, and I don't know how to calm down.
I don't like soaking in bathtubs..I know thats what all the ladies will suggest lol
I don't like soaking in bathtubs..I know thats what all the ladies will suggest lol
that's what I did and it's amazing how some heavy sets with free weights can drain the stress right out of you.
This can be done at home with body weight work if a gym isn't interesting.
See "Convict Conditioning" for some ideas.
It also gets rid of that alcohol flab so many of us have accumulated. . .
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