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Old 01-03-2016, 08:40 PM
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DontRemember, Sound like our legal problems are similar. I've had 5 DWIs-wiggle off the hook on 3 so this one is number 2. After each time I said I'd never get another. I mean't it too, at the time. This time I drove myself to AA got a sponsor, post on this board and am doing my best not to fail. For the first time I'm getting help. I know I'm an alcoholic and will not let my addiction convince me otherwise. I know what happens if I have one beer-same thing that always happens.

It's time for both of us to stop digging, the hole is deep enough.
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Old 01-03-2016, 08:47 PM
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I am glad you are ok. Best of luck. Voluntary going into treatment is a good sign. I wish you all the best. Sending you hope and courage.
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Old 01-03-2016, 08:55 PM
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Oh wow! Glad nothing worse happened.
Once you quit drinking this stuff won't be in your life anymore, you can totally quit; just give a good try!
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Old 01-04-2016, 04:43 AM
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Your lucky to be alive & not to have hurt anyone else please let this be a turning point some people never get 2nd chances

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Old 01-04-2016, 06:41 AM
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Happy to hear your safe. Good going setting up.the therapy appointment. Make this the turning point. You can do it.
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Old 01-04-2016, 02:16 PM
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Thanks,Everyone. My ex's phone number was the only one I could remember(concussed),so she was who I called from jail to contact my family. She came over last night and took me to dinner and we got a hotel room and talked. We can't be together,but it was nice to say 'goodbye' and get some decent closure on that front. Waiting on my truck to be towed to my house now.. I haven't seen it yet. I've been told it's very bloody inside and my front 24" rim is broken in half.
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Old 01-04-2016, 09:41 PM
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I've broken many things including a few cars. It is good that materiel things can be replaced. Sadly other things I have lost cannot.
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Old 01-05-2016, 02:52 PM
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Originally Posted by chrcarlson View Post
I've broken many things including a few cars. It is good that materiel things can be replaced. Sadly other things I have lost cannot.
I relate to that last part very much so.. I'm going to try to make peace/amends with the people I've wronged,including my ex,due to my drinking. She drinks(sometimes in excess) and when we'd argue,while drinking, the 'below the belt' words were said from both sides. Her son(20),whom I've helped raise since he was 9, has pretty much written me off and has told her if we ever get back together,he'll have nothing to do with her. It breaks my heart the damage I've caused. Wish there was a rewind button in life.
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Old 01-05-2016, 03:05 PM
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Originally Posted by DontRemember View Post
I relate to that last part very much so.. I'm going to try to make peace/amends with the people I've wronged,including my ex,due to my drinking. She drinks(sometimes in excess) and when we'd argue,while drinking, the 'below the belt' words were said from both sides. Her son(20),whom I've helped raise since he was 9, has pretty much written me off and has told her if we ever get back together,he'll have nothing to do with her. It breaks my heart the damage I've caused. Wish there was a rewind button in life.
I think we all wish we could unwind the past, I know I sure do but I have to remind myself and not as an excuse I was sick. As for amends I encourage you to take that one slow, make a list and take your time, also make a list of people that have hurt you, starting one at a time forgive them every morning until any and all resentment you may have towards them no longer brings up emotions, this was very hard work for me which led to taking a course through addiction services on forgiveness as I was brought up forgiveness was not on the table yet my home was considered at the time religious.
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Old 08-10-2016, 05:05 PM
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Just a quick follow up on my pending case. Met with my attorney today to go over the discovery. My BAC was .31 at the time my blood was taken..SCARY!!

He's pretty sure I won't get any additional jail time, but who knows.
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Old 08-10-2016, 05:12 PM
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You should take a picture of your current state and keep it with you at all times so if you ever think about picking up again look at that picture of your broken nose.
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Old 08-10-2016, 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted by DontRemember View Post
Scariest part of the whole ordeal isn't jail time,fines,ect... Deep down I have a feeling that I hit that wall purposefully. Last thing I remember,before being knocked unconscious,is "F it!".. I have an appointment set for a therapist on Wen. I truly feel like I tried to kill myself.
I had an experience similar to yours, long ago. And there have been other close calls (a few drink-related). apparently we still "have business to take care of" here. Let's move forward, stay sober and embrace the possibilities/responsibilities I (at least) believe may have been entrusted to us.
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Old 08-10-2016, 08:10 PM
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I've been done for a DUI twice so I can really relate. Also countless numbers of times I haven't been caught in accidents damaging other vehicles but somehow escaped a DUI. Maybe because it happened outside pubs and they didn't wan't to lose business.. Its a horrible situation your in but maybe a wakeup call. I stick to back streets hoping Iwon't hurt anyone. But if I did I would be in real strife. Hope you find a way through this.
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Old 08-10-2016, 09:19 PM
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How scary! I'm glad you are ok and no one was hurt. I had a DUI about 12 years ago, it was horrible. I don't know what state you live in but I'm pretty sure if you show a judge that you have a concrete plan for treatment -- without waiting for them to send you someplace of the court's choosing -- you will look better to the judge. Line up something now, before you go to court. Alternatively, you could ask your attorney if you can go to rehab and then go to court. Sometimes they will let you do that. There was a guy in my rehab place -- a young, handsome, witty guy -- who had some serious drug charges when he came in. A felony, I think. He went through the entire program, gave it his all, and was able to avoid jail time. He's doing great now. Rehab really changed my life. I was terrified to go, but it has helped me with so many issues besides alcohol. PM me if you want info. I did a LOT of research on rehabs and one of my high school friends used to run one in CA. I got him to help me find a place. Good luck.
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Old 08-10-2016, 11:55 PM
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I'm glad you survived. I've been arrested for a total of 5 DUI's in my life. The last 3 in the last 2 years. I beat 2 our of 3 so I'm luck to be here and not in jail. I suggest get a sponsor begin working on the steps. I brought my sponsor to court with me a the prosecutor talked with him directly. It helps to show that you're doing something about your drinking. I just got done with my steps and I feel better than I ever have that I can remember.

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thankfully you are alright and no innocents hurt. My uncle killed someone driving drunk and a coworker died driving drunk he rear ended a parked 18 wheeler approx speed 100 mph nothing left but his dentures.
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Old 08-11-2016, 12:04 AM
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Old 08-11-2016, 03:11 AM
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Old 08-11-2016, 04:08 AM
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Old 08-11-2016, 07:19 AM
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I see your arrest was in January - did you ever get to rehab? How's your sobriety going?

When I got my second DUI and wrecked my car in the process of knocking over a traffic signal, my bac was .34. I was so lucky I didn't hurt anyone else or myself, and that I didn't just die from that high of a bac. Sadly, that didn't stop me. It took DUI number 3 (rammed into a parked car, totaled it, and nearly totaled my car) to get me to wake up and make the change. My state (Wisconsin) is a little more relaxed than some on DUI's - number 3 is still a misdemeanor. But when I was sitting in the back of a police car after number 3, handcuffed and crying, I truly had a spiritual awakening. I listened to my higher power (which I had never acknowledged until that very moment) and have not had a drink since.
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