jimmyhow

No plan so far Dee. This time around I've been more honest with people (and myself) though. I'm hoping this will make people take my quitting a bit more seriously. I've had no help whatsoever before. When I've tried stopping before I've not been upfront about the extent of my issues with drink and mental health, it's been more of a 'oh, I'm having a sober week' type explanation/lie.

I'm just hoping it's not too late and I've ruined my relationship.

CelticZebra

It's important to fix my relationship with myself by continuing to be an ex-drinker.
Apologise to your SO then concentrate on getting well and Not drinking along with help from source.

Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself

GhostFace

You can change, take it one day at a time.

jimmyhow

I hope so Ghostface. If I don't I'm going to be living in hell, things are getting worse all the time. I've bee trying to stop for a few years on and off. Hopefully this time it'll stick.

Dee74

I really recommend you get a plan Jimmy.

Otherwise you just have this nebulous idea of not drinking and no plans in place for that moment when you get blindsided by events emotions people or whatever, and you have that urge to drink.

This is a great link:

https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf

FormerWineGirl

I jimmyhow, I'm sorry you are having a rough time. I remember reaching the point where drinking was no longer pleasurable and I would ask myself why I was doing it. You don't have to feel that way anymore - being a slave to something that only causes you misery. Now is a great time to take back control of your life.

MariahGayle

Glad your here Jimmie....you are not alone in this & will find much support here.

C23

WelcomeJimmy! You are definitely not alone and you will find that we all have experienced what you are going through. Please make sure you are focusing on making yourself healthy first and foremost. In my experience, dojng that heals all other relationships snd automatically fixes the "issues" we all have!

jimmyhow

Thanks Dee. I downloaded that from the other thread but didn't read it. I looked through it though this morning and it looks good. I didn't really know how to start with a plan, I've got a better idea now.

One thing I need at the moment is a routine. I'm out of work at the moment (like quite a few other people unfortunately). So I have too much time on my hands to think/dwell. That is something that needs to change too. Overthinking is a big problem for me, especially when alcohol is involved.

Dee74

I built a routine around SR Jimmy - might be a starting point for you?

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jimmyhow

That sounds like a good idea.