Plan not "good enough" for spouse?
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: California
Posts: 2,693
It'll take some time. I was a chronic relapse case until I decided not to be. And when I say "decided," it was the culmination of many disastrous, dangerous, and terribly sad events that led me to the point where it was no longer possible for me to continue drinking alcohol if I wanted any semblance of a happy or somewhat normal life. Not one more day. Not one more drink. No way, no how, no alcohol.
I am borrowing this line from someone on here but "even if no other human being had ever gotten sober in the history of mankind, I was going to be the first."
I decided a year and a half ago that there would be no situation, event, disaster, anything, that would ever, ever get me to drink alcohol.
I am a work in progress but I haven't had a drink in over 18 months.
I've regained the trust that I had lost while drinking. You'll earn it back too.
I am borrowing this line from someone on here but "even if no other human being had ever gotten sober in the history of mankind, I was going to be the first."
I decided a year and a half ago that there would be no situation, event, disaster, anything, that would ever, ever get me to drink alcohol.
I am a work in progress but I haven't had a drink in over 18 months.
I've regained the trust that I had lost while drinking. You'll earn it back too.
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 11,417
If she's had to live with your drinking and its negative effects, and your failed attempts to quit in the past,
are you really that put out that maybe she wants some control back over her life?
What you've been doing impacts her pretty seriously as your spouse.
It's great you hashed it out, but talk is pretty cheap coming from us addicts.
My spouse didn't take my recovery seriously for months as I'd always
talked a good game but never walked the walk until I finally did.
are you really that put out that maybe she wants some control back over her life?
What you've been doing impacts her pretty seriously as your spouse.
It's great you hashed it out, but talk is pretty cheap coming from us addicts.
My spouse didn't take my recovery seriously for months as I'd always
talked a good game but never walked the walk until I finally did.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: PA
Posts: 12,000
Have you heard the story about the boy who cried wolf?
Do what you must to get and stay sober.
If you are doing something halfheartedly only to placate someone else, you are just spinning your wheels.
In whichever path you choose, you must do it for yourself first.
Eventually your actions will speak for you.
Do what you must to get and stay sober.
If you are doing something halfheartedly only to placate someone else, you are just spinning your wheels.
In whichever path you choose, you must do it for yourself first.
Eventually your actions will speak for you.
A Day at a Time
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Grand Rapids MI
Posts: 6,435
In my opinion we need to use absolutely every resource at our disposal and continue to use them.
The people that get sober are the ones that are willing to anything. No one ever said getting sober was plesent or painless. Going outside of our comfort zones is mandatory
The people that get sober are the ones that are willing to anything. No one ever said getting sober was plesent or painless. Going outside of our comfort zones is mandatory
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