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Transience and transformation

Topics (and general feeling about life) I've always been interested in, from many different contexts and angles. It's something that has always resonated with me deeply. It's a particularly appropriate theme for my actual life during my nearly 2 years of sobriety.

Generally speaking, I think it suits the process of recovery, with all the initial feelings of loss and struggles early on, the changes, and eventual transformations. All entirely possible and doable.

There is more great stuff to read about this topic than I will ever be able to read in my life. This article was in my inbox today and thought I would share here.
https://www.brainpickings.org/2015/1...eid=96502ffc03

Have a safe NYE and a meaningful sober 2016, everyone!
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Happy new year Aellyce all the best for 2016
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Great post Aellyce!! Have a great New Year!!

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Old 12-31-2015, 04:55 PM
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Thanks for the post and all the best in 2016!
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Old 01-14-2016, 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Aellyce View Post
The point of this was that companies are working on the historically and biologically difficult task of changing eye color, permanently... because, akin to many other cosmetic procedures, people might be wildly interested in this one. I am involved in such a project.

Unfortunately (or not?) many of our volunteers have addiction history (we have a questionnaire addressing that and the general consensus is honest really).
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Old 01-31-2016, 07:29 PM
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This is a tribute to my husband... and, as you can see, my romantic life in sobriety
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He's on a business trip to Asia from the US, stranded at a London airport. Just called me that he wanted to book a flight back to NY O/N to just spend whatever time with me again before this trip.
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Hi Aellyce,

Great to read that Love and sobriety are both going well these days.

How has your New Year been thus far? Any new insight to share (if you wish)?

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Venecia... you know who this is all about, don't you?

I have a therapy appt later tonight, and I'm sure it will be wonderful and relieving as usually, it won't replace the conversations with my dad.
Anyhow...
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I hope your therapy session goes well Aellyce
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Great songs. That's a really interesting topic to mention.
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Old 02-02-2016, 09:59 AM
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Read the brain pickings page again. Some great stuff!

Congrats on your success!
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Old 02-05-2016, 11:52 AM
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For those that like the music I post on SR: here is a song that relates to how I feel today. Yep, it's a bit manic... I've been tested for bipolar many times and never met the diagnostic criteria but I do think I have a streak... I tend to experience episodes that pretty much fit the description of "hypomania" and "mixed states". Today it's like this:


I'm over 2 years sober but occasionally like to post about my emotional states to highlight having ups and downs and everything in between in really part of normal life
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My husband came back home from his trip today - lots of interpersonal sparkles and more to be expected for a few days, LOL

It's all so interesting... I've had all kinds of experiences in my life with attachment (daughter-parent, sexual, crushes, infatuation, admiration, idolization, genuine love in longer term, what have you) throughout my life, but really nothing like this so far. It feels a bit like a fusion of all those listed past experiences, with novel components that I don't understand fully myself yet. Perhaps this is related to longer term sober living in my 40's? Dunno.

Anyhow, so he's back to give me my most desired company And I'll need to leave in ~2 weeks for a similar trip, also to Asia. I wondered if it might be better for us to coordinate these trips and travel together, but I keep thinking the separate/private/alone times that are the consequences of our careers do and will serve us better both short and long term.
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I also seem to experience a reverse mode of what we usually acknowledge as display of the "seasonal disorder affective whatever. Anyhow, here is:
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Old 02-08-2016, 06:14 PM
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Enjoy your time with your husband, Aellyce.

I'm not sure I've still fully processed the loss of my father. Yesterday, I went home to attend the visitation for the father of a dear friend with whom I grew up. We both noted there is great comfort in having been blessed with good dads. Same for you, dear Aellyce.
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I miss my dad also, that I can relate, but we gotta stay strong, keep pushing onwards!!

After reading this thread, somehow this song spoke to me this evening Aellyce!!

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