It aint all rainbows and unicorns
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I wish you strength and more than that peace this Christmas, MIR.
I am long divorced and never had kids so I can't really imagine how it must hurt to lose a daughter. But I perhaps have some small sense of it having lost my dad a few years back. Even though it was a while in coming the finality of it struck me like a ton of bricks...and truth be told it still affects me. I try to take comfort in knowing he'd be proud of my sobriety since I know he always hoped I'd quit drinking someday. But it's hard to use that as motivation year in and year out.
Finality. I guess that sticks in the back of my mind like a ghost. It's hard to process that the ones we love are gone for the totality of the rest of our lives.
Yet I sincerely believe that a part of them lives on in us as long as we remember them. I know it's a bitter pill to swallow to mourn the ones that should be mourning us. Hang in there, MIR!
I am long divorced and never had kids so I can't really imagine how it must hurt to lose a daughter. But I perhaps have some small sense of it having lost my dad a few years back. Even though it was a while in coming the finality of it struck me like a ton of bricks...and truth be told it still affects me. I try to take comfort in knowing he'd be proud of my sobriety since I know he always hoped I'd quit drinking someday. But it's hard to use that as motivation year in and year out. Finality. I guess that sticks in the back of my mind like a ghost. It's hard to process that the ones we love are gone for the totality of the rest of our lives.
Yet I sincerely believe that a part of them lives on in us as long as we remember them. I know it's a bitter pill to swallow to mourn the ones that should be mourning us. Hang in there, MIR!
A Day at a Time
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Thank you all for the prayers and kind words. I'm doing better than I have been but when these damn waves of grief hit it seems there is nothing you can do other than to feel horrible. It's not all unicorns and rainbows
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Honoring your grief for such an awful loss is no pity party.
Accepting your grief and your loss - sober - is incredible and inspiring.
I wish you peace and comfort. The loss of one's child must leave behind an eternal hole in one's heart.
You face it bravely and you are courageous and strong in your sharing.... but I'm sure that doesn't make the pain any smaller, the sorrow any shallower.
I'm sending you my love and prayers, MI
Accepting your grief and your loss - sober - is incredible and inspiring.
I wish you peace and comfort. The loss of one's child must leave behind an eternal hole in one's heart.
You face it bravely and you are courageous and strong in your sharing.... but I'm sure that doesn't make the pain any smaller, the sorrow any shallower.
I'm sending you my love and prayers, MI
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Unbelievably powerful post. I too hope that you are able to get a respite from the grief you feel, though the fact that you continue on sober and don't allow grief to become an excuse to drink says remarkable things about your courage, resolve, and strength of character. Wishing you peace this holiday season and I thank you for being an inspiration in your sobriety and as a human being in general.
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Hello MIR, I've read almost every post you've given to us.
Thank you for each and every one.
I am very sorry for your loss, but through your pain,
you've given us hope and strength.
I thank you sincerely for this.
Thank you for each and every one.
I am very sorry for your loss, but through your pain,
you've given us hope and strength.
I thank you sincerely for this.
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