Drink , what i'm missing out on , a christmas reminder
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Drink , what i'm missing out on , a christmas reminder
One of my tools in recovery and protection against going backwards is to be able to list off several ideas as to why drinking is a bad idea for me .
I thought maybe it'd be useful to share , compare and add to our lists .
So here goes :-
red and puffy face,
being out of control,
being sick,
being over the drink drive limit the morning after,
being doubly or singly incontinent,
dry heaving,
wondering who i phoned/e-mailed/texted drunk,
having sky high blood pressure,
having no focus,
finding it hard to breath and heavy chested the day after,
having arguments over nothing,
having fires by leaving food in oven , on hobs or under the grill and then passing out,
Finding myself in A&E (E.R) without any idea how i got there covered in blood.
Letting my family down ,
letting myself down ,
shame ,
humiliation,
Being loud boorishly drunk and obnoxious,
being self centred and sitting on my pity pot far to long,
Isolation and paranoia,
Increase in the likelihood of stroke, cancer and heart disease.
feel free to add a few
I feel safer and more secure in my sobriety after remembering what i'm missing out on this christmas .
I hope you miss out on them too ,
Bestwishes, m
I thought maybe it'd be useful to share , compare and add to our lists .
So here goes :-
red and puffy face,
being out of control,
being sick,
being over the drink drive limit the morning after,
being doubly or singly incontinent,
dry heaving,
wondering who i phoned/e-mailed/texted drunk,
having sky high blood pressure,
having no focus,
finding it hard to breath and heavy chested the day after,
having arguments over nothing,
having fires by leaving food in oven , on hobs or under the grill and then passing out,
Finding myself in A&E (E.R) without any idea how i got there covered in blood.
Letting my family down ,
letting myself down ,
shame ,
humiliation,
Being loud boorishly drunk and obnoxious,
being self centred and sitting on my pity pot far to long,
Isolation and paranoia,
Increase in the likelihood of stroke, cancer and heart disease.
feel free to add a few
I feel safer and more secure in my sobriety after remembering what i'm missing out on this christmas .
I hope you miss out on them too ,
Bestwishes, m
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Thanks for sharing! Here's a few to add for me:
Pounding head and bloodshot eyes the morning after...
Passing out...
No memory of the night before...
Alcohol-induced eating binges...
Being lazy and overweight...
I'm happy to miss out on all of it this Christmas, and after 7 months, I no longer have any of the above
Pounding head and bloodshot eyes the morning after...
Passing out...
No memory of the night before...
Alcohol-induced eating binges...
Being lazy and overweight...
I'm happy to miss out on all of it this Christmas, and after 7 months, I no longer have any of the above
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Three from me....
1. Completely running out of money, having emptied all the accounts and maxed out the credit card.
2. Developing a nervous shake which caused my arms and neck to constantly twitch.
3. Not realising that I could change anything, let alone change almost everything.
1. Completely running out of money, having emptied all the accounts and maxed out the credit card.
2. Developing a nervous shake which caused my arms and neck to constantly twitch.
3. Not realising that I could change anything, let alone change almost everything.
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The majority of my tick list covered but one that I keep thinking on and it seems utterly crazy is:-
chest pains (after heavy drinking & drug use - collapsed twice over the years - but still continued !!! utter madness)
chest pains (after heavy drinking & drug use - collapsed twice over the years - but still continued !!! utter madness)
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Wondering who I texted and called the next morning....ugh! This one resonates with me the most. Thanks for this post. I was really wanting to fantasize about drinking last night.
Black outs
Making promises to people I didn't keep because I forgot them. Mom wondering why I didn't visit
Anger and fear remembering I drove when I shouldn't have
Losing my coordination and blurting out stuff I'd never say sober, all while I'm trying to appear sober
The list is almost endless really. Thanks again for the reminder that drinking usually sucks
Black outs
Making promises to people I didn't keep because I forgot them. Mom wondering why I didn't visit
Anger and fear remembering I drove when I shouldn't have
Losing my coordination and blurting out stuff I'd never say sober, all while I'm trying to appear sober
The list is almost endless really. Thanks again for the reminder that drinking usually sucks
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Join Date: Nov 2014
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Having a nice long weekend to relax and get caught up with stuff... Instead spending the whole weekend drinking, or sleeping it off.
Back to work on the Monday after with nothing accomplished, red eyes and more tired than before the weekend! UGH!
Back to work on the Monday after with nothing accomplished, red eyes and more tired than before the weekend! UGH!
I don't miss that at all.
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
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Missing out on the collaboration of body, mind and spirit - perhaps for the last time if I drink!
Merry Feliz Xmas Navidad Christmas Hanukkah - stay away from the burbon, beer, wine, tequila, spiked nog and manischewitz!!
Good thread !
Merry Feliz Xmas Navidad Christmas Hanukkah - stay away from the burbon, beer, wine, tequila, spiked nog and manischewitz!!
Good thread !
I could see peace instead of this
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Thank you for the reminders!
Whenever I start thinking a drink is looking pretty good right now, I tell myself "Sure, you can drink as long as you're willing to have all these things that will definitely come with it".
That changes my mind pretty quick.
Whenever I start thinking a drink is looking pretty good right now, I tell myself "Sure, you can drink as long as you're willing to have all these things that will definitely come with it".
That changes my mind pretty quick.
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Waking up at 2a or 3a with the thoughts I had been trying to avoid, but not being able to sleep.
All the worry and stress about when the alcohol was going to catch up with me and start causing me health issues.
Getting asked by mr. strat how I was feeling after last night.
Needing mac and cheese to help my stomach feel better.
Not having to look at all the bottles in the recycle bin to see how much I drank the previous night.
Wondering what happened with the movie we were watching since I fell asleep halfway through.
All the worry and stress about when the alcohol was going to catch up with me and start causing me health issues.
Getting asked by mr. strat how I was feeling after last night.
Needing mac and cheese to help my stomach feel better.
Not having to look at all the bottles in the recycle bin to see how much I drank the previous night.
Wondering what happened with the movie we were watching since I fell asleep halfway through.
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Waking up completely broke after spending all of my last $$$ on booze and taxi rides the night before....spending a month's rent at the pubs and clubs in one weekend. What a waste...and the terrible snowball of consequences that follow are enough to make a person want to quit at life.
No thanks!
No thanks!
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I always struggle this time of year cause my AV uses the "special occasion" line to try to get me to drink. So here are a few related to that:
Having my personality warped and changed - becoming someone completely self-centered and a victim of the world, so I don't want to be around others.
Not being present at holiday dinners or parties because I'm either drunk or worrying about if I'll get enough.
Overstaying my welcome at people's homes cause I want to keep the party going. No, they want you to leave already!
Putting my safety at risk on New Years by bar hopping in sub-zero freezing weather! Why?!
Waking up on New Years feeling absolutely poisoned, because I am. Wasting the entire first day of the new year on somebody's couch with the shades drawn.
Gonna have a nice, safe, drama-free (on my end, at least) holidays this year, just like the last. Thanks for the thread!
Having my personality warped and changed - becoming someone completely self-centered and a victim of the world, so I don't want to be around others.
Not being present at holiday dinners or parties because I'm either drunk or worrying about if I'll get enough.
Overstaying my welcome at people's homes cause I want to keep the party going. No, they want you to leave already!
Putting my safety at risk on New Years by bar hopping in sub-zero freezing weather! Why?!
Waking up on New Years feeling absolutely poisoned, because I am. Wasting the entire first day of the new year on somebody's couch with the shades drawn.
Gonna have a nice, safe, drama-free (on my end, at least) holidays this year, just like the last. Thanks for the thread!
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I have had a few sober Christmases and many drinking ones. The drinking ones begin with a few drinks Christmas Eve whatever we are doing and then continue to drink as I wrap and play Santa after the kids go to bed. This results in a tired, headachy, foggy Christmas morning where I cannot enjoy the full experience of Christmas morning because I am suffering. Sober Christmas Eve gets it all done with a clear mind and solid sleep. Wake up ready to the enjoy the beauty Christmas. I am present and alive. Those are the best Christmases and I will be sure that it goes like that this year. Life is too precious to go the other route.
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