JD

Too much drama mera. Go home and go to bed.

ScottFromWI

You need to get out of the bar now Mera. I think it's time for you to make the call and get some outside help that you've suggested in the past. You aren't thinking clearly and need external assistance.

Meraviglioso

I am a totally normal person when I am sober, I swear to yoyu.

ScottFromWI

So do something about it. Drinking is not helping. Pretty simple equation.

Meraviglioso

I am out of the bar, I am at home. I had 4 glasses of wine at the bar and now am drinking a bottle.

JD

I believe you. So go home, go to bed and we'll see you in the morning.

Soberwolf

I sent you another pm Mera x

ScottFromWI

Dump out the bottle and drink some water.

Meraviglioso

This is me, I am a normal, happy ,ok person, I just cannot handle myself,

Anna

Mera, please listen to everyone here.

Meraviglioso

why am I doing this?

ScottFromWI

Because you are drunk and you are an alcoholic. Quit drinking and get some rest.

ccam1973

Mera, we are all here to help you, but you've got to help yourself first.

You are a strong individual and absolutely can get your life back. We all have obstacles in life, and the one thing that makes them worse is drinking. Envision what you want to get out of tomorrow and start to make it happen today.

Be strong Mera, fight this battle, and use any and all measures you have to get your life back.

Drinking will never solve any problems for us.

happyandfree

Mera...I hope you are sleeping it off now. You can unravel this situation. It is terrible, and the expartner is a smuck, but you can get to the other side of this. Dump the wine and step up to the plate. ...

Jsbodhi

Hey Mera xoxo
You're ok- first things first- Do not listen to Rust in True Detective!!! He was so miserable!!! ( but awesome)

Just dust yourself off in the morning and try again xoxo
You're fine xoxo we've all been there.

Which adds to my next comment; the short, condescending tones from some of the other members aren't helping.
Are you perhaps forgetting the things you did while drinking?!?! Huh?
She had a bad day, a really bad day, the last she she needs is a bunch of self righteous comments.
Bloody hell

TheRake

The first reading of that I thought you were telling her to go out and get a crow bar and smash her ex partner to pieces

Saskia

(((Mera))), everyone has already said it all. I just want to add that I think highly of you. You need to get and stay sober for yourself first - whatever it takes!

OpenTuning

Hi Mera,

First, I totally understand your anger and frustration at your ex business partner. He is a piece of ****. I don't know if I believe in karma, but you can only hope that at some point he'll get what he deserves as a result of this.

Second, please stop drinking now, if you haven't already. It's hard to stop once you started, I know I always found it hard, but you'll have to stop at some point, so why not do that now.

Third, you haven't thrown anything away. You were sober a long time. You did brilliantly. And what you're doing today does not change that one tiny bit. All those days you were sober are days you weren't damaging yourself or damaging others. They were days your body and mind and relationships with others were healing. You should be proud of your sober time, and do not, I repeat, do NOT let your AV tell you that the fact you are drinking today means that was all a waste and a sign that you are a failure.

What you've learned today is that you haven't got a plan for every trigger, because you let someone else's actions trigger your drinking. So what you'll need to do is find a way to cope with the completely justified anger you feel in a different way next time. You'll need to look at your plan again, and make the necessary changes.

The worst thing that could happen is to decide that one day of drinking means all that sober time has gone down the drain, and to use that to justify carrying on drinking. It hasn't. All that time sober is still there. It's still proof that you can do this. Your sobriety plan wasn't perfect yet. Fine. Just keep working on it until it is.

It's very painful to see you being so hard on yourself when you've done so fantastically well for so long. You wouldn't treat anyone else the way you're treating yourself right now. Can you imagine saying those things to me, or anyone else on SR who had slipped in their sober journey? Of course you can't, because you're a good person. So please, stop treating yourself worse than you'd treat the complete strangers who you've been offering so much help and support to on here. You deserve that kindness from yourself too.

Fly N Buy

A few years back, I called my employer while highly intoxicated and read them the riot act. I used about every word you did above - It's funny, but I didn't even have to slow down reading the asterisks, filled them in perfectly.

I no longer work for them. The year after I did this, my income was 1/3/ of the previous year. I still haven't recouped it and likely never will. ******* painful to say the least.

I had two choices. I could melt down and become irrelevant to myself and all (the few) who care about me or deal with it. That was almost 5 years ago - I have 18 months sober, you can do the math.

I sat in the **** for a very, very long time. For some reason one night after a bender there was a moment of clarity. This **** I created was indeed real and I could change or stay stuck.

A friend said once - if somebody drops us in the middle of the road and years later we are still sitting there who's at fault?!

We all have to make that choice. I know your pain is very fresh, but there is hope. We only lose hope when we choose to give up. You can choose to not sit in it.

I've never known you to give up and wouldn't expect you to do so now.

We'll leave the light on for ya.......

Soberwolf

I really hope you call the number I sent you Mera they are in Italy & your best chance at long term sobriety