Originally Posted by Andante

digital, secular, and anonymous?

That's basically how I've done it. Seems to have been working for me for... huh, I just checked on one of those sobriety calculator thingies, and it's 999 days! I'll have to make a "1,000 days" post tomorrow.

The point I'd like to make, however, is that in my experience, setting limits on what you're willing to do to get sober (especially bolded, underlined, italicized, non-negotiable limits) rarely works out well. For me, it was essential that I approach the challenge with a completely open mind. I had to admit that my old ways of thinking weren't working so well anymore, and I had to be willing to adopt totally new ones. That meant giving consideration to approaches that took me out of my mental comfort zone.

It took me 7-1/2 years from the point I decided I really had to sober up until I actually did it. I spent most of that time dabbling on the edges of recovery but never really committing myself because I was wasting my energy trying to fashion the perfect personalized program that didn't challenge my fears or offend my rational sensibilities.

Like the author Richard Bach said, "if you argue for your limitations, sure enough they're yours."

Welcome to the posting side of SR, and best of luck on your journey!

Originally Posted by littlefish

I remember a time when I did not want any kind of group dynamic in recovery. If you don't feel ready for that, have you looked for an addictions therapist?

I have used lots of different methods and I had an addictions therapist for almost three years. However by that time I had also started using AA.

There are lots and lots of options for recovery. You have set some conditions for recovery, thats okay, but please don't let those conditions prevent you from finding help! Good luck!