Ambesia
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If you guys black out do you take the ignorance is bliss route and say ' if I don't remember it it didn't happen' or do you face it full on and find out what you did?
My husband won't talk to me look at me or touch me, I feel like it's more than me passing out drunk on the couch, I must have said or done something, I'm just scared to ask.
My husband won't talk to me look at me or touch me, I feel like it's more than me passing out drunk on the couch, I must have said or done something, I'm just scared to ask.
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Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to blackouts. That was my experience anyways. Hopefully, you guys will be able to talk about things before too long. And, as Scott said, ensure that it never happens again.
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I'd work on my plan, give him space,
and if he wants to talk about it, be willing to.
Own what you did and don't minimize--apology if needed,
but remember, they get tired of our endless apologies, so don't go on and on.
Most important, as others have said, don't repeat the blackout / drinking
and things will "normalize" over time.
That's pretty much the best you can do post-binge. . .
Sorry you are hurting. . . I have been there too many times.
and if he wants to talk about it, be willing to.
Own what you did and don't minimize--apology if needed,
but remember, they get tired of our endless apologies, so don't go on and on.
Most important, as others have said, don't repeat the blackout / drinking
and things will "normalize" over time.
That's pretty much the best you can do post-binge. . .
Sorry you are hurting. . . I have been there too many times.
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I couldn't bare not knowing so i had to ask! Most of the time id be mortified & 1 time my fiance videoed me wasted, i looked like a pathetic **** (so embarrassed) just face the harsh truth & make a plan to quit drinking!
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Ignorance is not bliss, especially in a marriage. Just do your best today, stay sober. It will come out when it comes out. Maybe he'll feel like telling you, maybe you'll find a good moment to ask. You can't fix it if you have no idea what "it" is.
That said, you can't change whatever it was. Be the best you today, it will get better.
That said, you can't change whatever it was. Be the best you today, it will get better.
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