30 Days Sober and Counting!
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30 Days Sober and Counting!
First, I want to thank everybody on this forum for the support and inspiration you have given me on this journey. I visualized myself writing this post 30 days ago and today is the day. I know im early in my sobriety, had many ups and down but I still managed not to drink in these tough times knowing im near the holidays.
Thanksgiving was tough. Being around friends and family who are drinking and denying a drink from each member was not easy to say the least. That thought came up, “maybe I will have 1 drink or just a taste” but I quickly got a hold of myself and knew that would lead to a binge. Some friends and family looked at me confused (I think they are praying on my downfall) while others congratulated me on my will power and sobriety. It actually motivates me to see how foolish people act when they’re intoxicated and to quickly remind myself that that was me once.
The loneliness of sobriety has had an effect on me. At first I thought that this was going to be dull. Not being able to relate to my friends and enjoy pass time with them since I’m not drinking. I’m very shy and alcohol used to loosen me up a bit and at times, now I feel like im real stiff not engaging with others especially when it comes to females. Who the hell wants to be sober when alcohol is the only thing you enjoy? Is there life in sobriety when every activity you engage in involves alcohol? Im still searching…
Going to bars and drinking water is not fun anymore. I usually go just to get out the house and catch up with people from around the way. The club scene is not appealing as well. Loud music, the crowd and alcohol is not fun for the sober me.
So what’s been the positive side of sobriety? First off, my mother and sister keep telling me how great I look. I have not missed a workout session this entire month, im working out 2x at home and 3x at the gym a week. Ive completed two online courses and finished reading 2 self-development books and almost done with business book all within a month. Im crossing most of the task on my to-do list and I have way more energy than I did before. At the gym im able to do more sets of calisthenics and lift heavier weights.
The positive outweighs the negative in sobriety and im starting to like the person im becoming. Im more caring and loving to others despite the fact that my love life is down the drain right now but, I have to put my sobriety first and take care of me before I get into a relationship. I owe this to myself; I don’t want to be the person I was before.
Thanksgiving was tough. Being around friends and family who are drinking and denying a drink from each member was not easy to say the least. That thought came up, “maybe I will have 1 drink or just a taste” but I quickly got a hold of myself and knew that would lead to a binge. Some friends and family looked at me confused (I think they are praying on my downfall) while others congratulated me on my will power and sobriety. It actually motivates me to see how foolish people act when they’re intoxicated and to quickly remind myself that that was me once.
The loneliness of sobriety has had an effect on me. At first I thought that this was going to be dull. Not being able to relate to my friends and enjoy pass time with them since I’m not drinking. I’m very shy and alcohol used to loosen me up a bit and at times, now I feel like im real stiff not engaging with others especially when it comes to females. Who the hell wants to be sober when alcohol is the only thing you enjoy? Is there life in sobriety when every activity you engage in involves alcohol? Im still searching…
Going to bars and drinking water is not fun anymore. I usually go just to get out the house and catch up with people from around the way. The club scene is not appealing as well. Loud music, the crowd and alcohol is not fun for the sober me.
So what’s been the positive side of sobriety? First off, my mother and sister keep telling me how great I look. I have not missed a workout session this entire month, im working out 2x at home and 3x at the gym a week. Ive completed two online courses and finished reading 2 self-development books and almost done with business book all within a month. Im crossing most of the task on my to-do list and I have way more energy than I did before. At the gym im able to do more sets of calisthenics and lift heavier weights.
The positive outweighs the negative in sobriety and im starting to like the person im becoming. Im more caring and loving to others despite the fact that my love life is down the drain right now but, I have to put my sobriety first and take care of me before I get into a relationship. I owe this to myself; I don’t want to be the person I was before.
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So proud of you for making those 30 days Ghost. We know how difficult it was for you to get started. I'm glad you're part of us. 
Shyness was why I relied on alcohol so heavily too. It seemed the perfect answer, until it took my soul. Years of drinking to mask my feelings cost me. I didn't mature or grow normally. Had a lot of catching up to do in middle age. I'm glad you're realizing you're not missing anything by not getting numb anymore.
Shyness was why I relied on alcohol so heavily too. It seemed the perfect answer, until it took my soul. Years of drinking to mask my feelings cost me. I didn't mature or grow normally. Had a lot of catching up to do in middle age.
I'm glad you're realizing you're not missing anything by not getting numb anymore.
Massive congrats on 30 days Ghostface
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Excellent! Keep going; things will keep getting better and better. Since I've been sober I've renewed my obsession with cycling and yoga; I've lost weight and been told how great I look, too. I think there is a brightness to my personality that was dulled with booze so it's not just physical. You feel better, you look better. Best wishes!
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