Losing Hope
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Losing Hope
Hi
My name is Steve and for the past 25 years I have struggled with alcohol. I have tried many times to quit but it never lasts o should I say I never finish the course.
This is the first time I have ever tried using a forum but I feel I am losing the battle and need help and support from people who know what I am talking about but more importantly from their past experiences they know what they are talking about.
Been sober for 2 days but seems like I have been living a nightmare for 2 lifetimes.
Thanks if you reads this
My name is Steve and for the past 25 years I have struggled with alcohol. I have tried many times to quit but it never lasts o should I say I never finish the course.
This is the first time I have ever tried using a forum but I feel I am losing the battle and need help and support from people who know what I am talking about but more importantly from their past experiences they know what they are talking about.
Been sober for 2 days but seems like I have been living a nightmare for 2 lifetimes.
Thanks if you reads this
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Hi and welcome Steve 
I'd nearly lost all hope when I found this place.
The community here is amazing - the support helped me turn things around stop drinking, and change my life.
I know we can help you do the same
I'd nearly lost all hope when I found this place.
The community here is amazing - the support helped me turn things around stop drinking, and change my life.
I know we can help you do the same
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Welcome and well done on day two, it gets easier.
25 years is a long time and will really seem so to you right now, BUT there's lots of people here who have been drinking a long time too and have now started working on change, have put some sober time in and can celebrate the huge benefits of a sober life. Stay close and keep reading.
I've had a drinking problem all of my adult life (30 + years) and have almost managed 8 months sober, couldn't recommend it more.
Good luck to you
xx
25 years is a long time and will really seem so to you right now, BUT there's lots of people here who have been drinking a long time too and have now started working on change, have put some sober time in and can celebrate the huge benefits of a sober life. Stay close and keep reading.
I've had a drinking problem all of my adult life (30 + years) and have almost managed 8 months sober, couldn't recommend it more.
Good luck to you
xx
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Hi Steve. Welcome to SR. You've come to the right place for help. Almost all of us have tried more than once to get and stay sober. It's a simple concept but extremely difficult to put into practice. It's also something you'll need to work on every day, but it does get easier over time.
This first 2 to 10 days can be hell. Everyone is different do no one can tell you how long the worse will last. But it does get better. So hang in there.
This first 2 to 10 days can be hell. Everyone is different do no one can tell you how long the worse will last. But it does get better. So hang in there.
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Originally Posted by SWH1959 
Been sober for 2 days but seems like I have been living a nightmare for 2 lifetimes
Things will look much better in time
but
you need to stay away from the booze -- if alcoholic ?
Yes, I'm a drunk
but
I just say no to drinking alcohol
MB
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Thanks for our encouragement Fartogo
I need to get some sober time in but most of all I need to share it instead of holding it in and ending up with it all crashing down.
Very early days but gonna keep on the forums and in touch with like people
I need to get some sober time in but most of all I need to share it instead of holding it in and ending up with it all crashing down.
Very early days but gonna keep on the forums and in touch with like people
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Steve:
You will get lots of support here. Also it would help you if you can get 1-1 support from other recovering alcoholics in your community, either through AA or some group like Smart Recovery or group therapy. This will increase your chances of long term sobriety. It's a tough battle but it's certainly doable if you have the proper support. Keep posting.
Bill.
You will get lots of support here. Also it would help you if you can get 1-1 support from other recovering alcoholics in your community, either through AA or some group like Smart Recovery or group therapy. This will increase your chances of long term sobriety. It's a tough battle but it's certainly doable if you have the proper support. Keep posting.
Bill.
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Welcome to SR, SWH; glad you found us.
This is a wonderful forum with great members who will support, encourage and understand.
I began a new life, a better way of living, when I began sobriety; so can you.
gain, welcome.
This is a wonderful forum with great members who will support, encourage and understand.
I began a new life, a better way of living, when I began sobriety; so can you.
gain, welcome.
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Steve, I struggled mightily! I finally used a bunch of resources: this forum, my doctor, pdoc, outpatient group addiction treatment program and AA (I'm not religious but it helped). I avoided people drinking and those who might trigger me to drink. I essentially dedicated about a year focused on mostly just this. I am still mindful every day but am feeling so very much better! Not everyone needs all of the resources that I did but for those having a hard time stopping, these steps can make a big difference.
I don't believe that anyone is hopeless if they are willing to put in whatever effort it takes.
I don't believe that anyone is hopeless if they are willing to put in whatever effort it takes.
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Hi Steve - welcome to the forum. People on here have helped me immensely. I'd tried to 'control' (hahahaha) my drinking in all kinds of ways before finally accepting that I needed to knock it on the head completely. Even when I first went along to AA I hoped someone would be able to advise me that I wasn't really alcoholic, and explain how to moderate effectively.
I've found lots of support and advise (and new friends who understand me, and who I understand) in the rooms of AA. Maybe it's worth checking out some meetings in your area - there's bound to be a few that suit you and aren't impossible to get to. Find a Meeting | AA Meetings | Alcoholics Anonymous (Great Britain) Ltd
Even if you aren't ready / willing to try AA, it's probably worth getting a copy of their (short) book called 'Living Sober'if you haven't already read it. It's full of tips for dealing with everyday life without picking up a drink.
Take care - and keep checking in here and letting us know how you're doing.
I've found lots of support and advise (and new friends who understand me, and who I understand) in the rooms of AA. Maybe it's worth checking out some meetings in your area - there's bound to be a few that suit you and aren't impossible to get to. Find a Meeting | AA Meetings | Alcoholics Anonymous (Great Britain) Ltd
Even if you aren't ready / willing to try AA, it's probably worth getting a copy of their (short) book called 'Living Sober'if you haven't already read it. It's full of tips for dealing with everyday life without picking up a drink.
Take care - and keep checking in here and letting us know how you're doing.
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