Tickets are booked for the Holidays
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Tickets are booked for the Holidays
I've touched on this before, but now its 100% going to happen. Wife and I are going to spend the Holidays with her family in California. I get along great with her family, they are Peruvian and it is such a kind culture. She has 3 brothers whom I enjoy more than my own brother. Fun guys. Her one brother is my age and is a contractor (just like I was) and is a bonafide alcoholic. I've done a lot of drinking with the man. When we drink together its kind of an all day steady stream of drunkenness. Never crazy, never to the point of getting sick, we eat properly etc... But in doing so, I never get a chance to truly sober up until I get back home. Well, that ain't gonna happen this time. I need to devise a plan navigate this because when he gets drunk he reverts to childish behavior and will try and peer pressure me. They are a traditional family so its usually guys hanging with the guys and the girls hang with the girls. My first thought is to plan daily things to do with my wife. Lunch, dinner, sight-see...whatever. But I'm not going to be on a construction site with a mixer in the truck all day.
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He does not. We used to talk on the phone all the time (drinking), but I've had a heckuva summer and I'm not drinking. My wife tells me he thinks I might be mad at him about something. I'm not, I just don't want to talk to a drunk twice a week.
Jeff, you might want to consider an email to your BIL so that he's prepared and doesn't feel like it's a shock that his ol' drinkin' buddy has made some changes. You might consider something along the lines of this:
"Hey __________,
Just a quick note to let you know we're really excited to spend the holidays in California with you and the rest of the family.
I wanted to let you something in advance so it doesn't come as a surprise. I've had to do some hard thinking about myself and have come to the conclusion that it's better for me to no longer drink. It's a personal decision -- one that I'm comfortable with and one that your sister/my wife is happy I've made. I don't expect my choices to change the fact that we're going to all have a great time together -- it's just that I won't be drinking anymore.
You guys mean the world to me and I'm really looking forward to seeing you."
Or something like that.
"Hey __________,
Just a quick note to let you know we're really excited to spend the holidays in California with you and the rest of the family.
I wanted to let you something in advance so it doesn't come as a surprise. I've had to do some hard thinking about myself and have come to the conclusion that it's better for me to no longer drink. It's a personal decision -- one that I'm comfortable with and one that your sister/my wife is happy I've made. I don't expect my choices to change the fact that we're going to all have a great time together -- it's just that I won't be drinking anymore.
You guys mean the world to me and I'm really looking forward to seeing you."
Or something like that.
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Jeff, you might want to consider an email to your BIL so that he's prepared and doesn't feel like it's a shock that his ol' drinkin' buddy has made some changes. You might consider something along the lines of this:
"Hey __________,
Just a quick note to let you know we're really excited to spend the holidays in California with you and the rest of the family.
I wanted to let you something in advance so it doesn't come as a surprise. I've had to do some hard thinking about myself and have come to the conclusion that it's better for me to no longer drink. It's a personal decision -- one that I'm comfortable with and one that your sister/my wife is happy I've made. I don't expect my choices to change the fact that we're going to all have a great time together -- it's just that I won't be drinking anymore.
You guys mean the world to me and I'm really looking forward to seeing you."
Or something like that.
"Hey __________,
Just a quick note to let you know we're really excited to spend the holidays in California with you and the rest of the family.
I wanted to let you something in advance so it doesn't come as a surprise. I've had to do some hard thinking about myself and have come to the conclusion that it's better for me to no longer drink. It's a personal decision -- one that I'm comfortable with and one that your sister/my wife is happy I've made. I don't expect my choices to change the fact that we're going to all have a great time together -- it's just that I won't be drinking anymore.
You guys mean the world to me and I'm really looking forward to seeing you."
Or something like that.
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