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Stewy84 11-10-2015 12:52 AM

Girlfriend moved back
 
Girlfriend moved back home, I'm still not sure we're going to be ok.

I have feelings of depression creeping up all the time again, I'm finding it difficult to separate feelings of depression with feelings of inadequacy in the relationship and trying to keep them separate.

It is what it is. I just know that today I feel absolutely dreadful and can't put my finger on why

MythOfSisyphus 11-10-2015 01:28 AM

I'm sorry you're struggling, Stewy. I can appreciate your position- it's very hard to separate your internal emotions with the particulars of a relationship. Is the relationship a source of unhappiness or your general unhappiness bleeding into the relationship? Often the two become the same thing.

I wish you well, Stewy! It's a lot to deal with, just try not to let it interfere with your sobriety. That's the key to the whole thing, staying sober.

Stewy84 11-10-2015 01:32 AM

I have no idea, I've never been right this year really, it's hard to differentiate. I have a gp appointment at the end of this week to have another chat about medication. Been on sertraline for nearly a month now.

I'm really fed up to be honest, think I need a break from myself going on so much!

Soberwolf 11-10-2015 01:44 AM

Hang in there Stewy if it is depression/inadequacy you can work on

You obviously want to be together ?

Stewy84 11-10-2015 03:11 AM

In all honesty, I have no idea. I'm stumped with it all.

I just know that I'd be worse off on my own at the minute

I do t know what to do take make things better

chicory 11-10-2015 03:25 AM

Be easy on yourself Stewy. You have a doc appointment soon, and thats good. Maybe try not to expect things to be great right now, and give it time to work itself out.
can you focus on doing something nice for yourself, or maybe indulge in something you love to do?

Soberwolf 11-10-2015 09:51 AM

Stewy how about a talk a calm rational talk try to both work towards a goal for instance recently she wanted her friends round

What would you like from this relationship

Stewy I feel a bit imposing asking this but do you love your gf because you seem so unhappy

What if you wrote a bucket list of all the things you could do together that would bring you joy


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