Do normal drinkers quit drinking for a month?
Love all the responses. Thank you. My personal opinion is she is an early stage alcoholic and the quitting drinking is her way of proving to herself that she still is in control. Which to some degree she is.
Who knows I could be completely wrong and it certainly won't be the first time that happened.
Time will tell and she knows my history if she ever wants someone who has been there and done that
Who knows I could be completely wrong and it certainly won't be the first time that happened.
Time will tell and she knows my history if she ever wants someone who has been there and done that
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That sounds like the ticket, Mir. Is really neither here nor there whether quitting for a month at a time makes her an alkie.
I've thought many times my brother is one of us. He drank problematically for years. He has an old DUI. On paper, he's a way bigger alkie than me!!
As it turns out, he is the normie and I'm the alkie. He and his wife quit for a year to support me in my recovery. Now they drink here and there. Dudes fine. Go figure
My other brother, not so much. He's come to me with his worries, he's definitely one of us. But until he decides to do something, I say nothing to him about it.
That sounds like the ticket, Mir. Is really neither here nor there whether quitting for a month at a time makes her an alkie.
I've thought many times my brother is one of us. He drank problematically for years. He has an old DUI. On paper, he's a way bigger alkie than me!!
As it turns out, he is the normie and I'm the alkie. He and his wife quit for a year to support me in my recovery. Now they drink here and there. Dudes fine. Go figure
My other brother, not so much. He's come to me with his worries, he's definitely one of us. But until he decides to do something, I say nothing to him about it.
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"My personal opinion is she is an early stage alcoholic and the quitting drinking is her way of proving to herself that she still is in control."
You may be right.
" Do normal drinkers quit drinking for a month?"
I don't know, primarily because I don't know what a normal drinker is. I have quit drinking many times for a month, but I never did that on a conscious basis. I never made any effort, it just happens. About the only time DW and I drink is in social situations with other people.
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You may be right.
" Do normal drinkers quit drinking for a month?"
I don't know, primarily because I don't know what a normal drinker is. I have quit drinking many times for a month, but I never did that on a conscious basis. I never made any effort, it just happens. About the only time DW and I drink is in social situations with other people.
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My niece quits drinking for a month every year which she says is a hard thing to do but she does it. She is convinced she doesn't have a problem because according to her she experiences no negative consequences. Which to some degree I believe.
Her mother (my sister) died when she was young and her father is not the most mentally stable person so there is no one I can connect with about her drinking.
All I know is to me quitting drinking for a month is a huge red flag because normal drinkers see no point to quitting something that isn't a problem
Her mother (my sister) died when she was young and her father is not the most mentally stable person so there is no one I can connect with about her drinking.
All I know is to me quitting drinking for a month is a huge red flag because normal drinkers see no point to quitting something that isn't a problem
Love all the responses. Thank you. My personal opinion is she is an early stage alcoholic and the quitting drinking is her way of proving to herself that she still is in control. Which to some degree she is.
Who knows I could be completely wrong and it certainly won't be the first time that happened.
Time will tell and she knows my history if she ever wants someone who has been there and done that
Who knows I could be completely wrong and it certainly won't be the first time that happened.
Time will tell and she knows my history if she ever wants someone who has been there and done that
But it was when it occurred to me that it had been over 5 years since I'd last taken so much as a week off booze, and I did it again, that led me to finally quit. When I finished what ended up as 6 weeks and started drinking again I realised how I genuinely hadn't missed it, and wasn't enjoying that first pint as much as I thought I would. That's when I started looking on here, read about AVRT, thought long and hard about it, and 3 weeks later I quit for good. That was 5 months ago now.
So I'd say it's likely she is a bit worried about how much she drinks, and is testing herself. Maybe she's worried about nothing, maybe she does have a problem. But it's good to know that if she does decide she needs help, she has an uncle who cares so much about her and will be there for her.
I know people who have taken breaks from sugar, caffeine, etc., as part of a periodic "cleanse". BUT I spent four years doing Moderation Management (which advocates doing a "30"--a 30-day break from alcohol--as part of learning "controlled drinking). My 30, a few months in, was a piece of cake. But when it was over I drank as much as ever, and my drinking continued to progress during the next four years.
Ditto that you are modeling happy sobriety for her whenever she is ready to be DONE.
Ditto that you are modeling happy sobriety for her whenever she is ready to be DONE.
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Sometimes it's difficult but I try not to diagnose others habits. All you can do is give advise if they ask for it. Unsolicited advice is not usually heard and quite frankly annoying. What is normal? I guess I was a normal drinker cause I normally drank. Now I guess I'm no longer a normal drinker.
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