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My mind has been over occupied today with thoughts about quitting for good, its almost like a new obsession! I'm constantly thinking about how to make this work. As a result I haven't even craved the stuff today. Although if there was some in the house, I would sure pour a glass out of habit. Contemplating on throwing away all the wine glasses. I won't need them anymore right? How do you deal with others (visitors/family) drinking in your house? How do you set the boundaries without offending?
Day 4 done.
My mind has been over occupied today with thoughts about quitting for good, its almost like a new obsession! I'm constantly thinking about how to make this work. As a result I haven't even craved the stuff today. Although if there was some in the house, I would sure pour a glass out of habit. Contemplating on throwing away all the wine glasses. I won't need them anymore right? How do you deal with others (visitors/family) drinking in your house? How do you set the boundaries without offending?
Day 4 done.
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Good job on completing day 4!
You could have a wine glass destruction ceremony...and I say get rid of them as they are part of drinking....
Some folks deal with others drinking around them by simply telling them they have stopped drinking. Many people understand that and respect it.
You could have a wine glass destruction ceremony...and I say get rid of them as they are part of drinking....
Some folks deal with others drinking around them by simply telling them they have stopped drinking. Many people understand that and respect it.
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Good question...I am dealing with that myself. I quit smoking with a smoker in the house and people smoking around me...I am hoping it's the same thing. I know you're supposed to remove temptation but sometimes that's not practical or possible. Right now I have no desire to drink, I know that I have made my decision NOT to drink and I could, at this moment, have people over and make drinks and not have one myself. I have done this before. The problem is what happens when I somehow justify that "oh just one glass of wine won't kill me"...then I'm back on day 1 again...again. My boyfriend would take every drop out of the house for me, never play pool again with the guys, and never relax with a scotch in front of me if I just said the word...but I feel that's so unfair to him, I'm the one with the problem, not him.
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Originally Posted by LoveYouBye 
Good question...I am dealing with that myself. I quit smoking with a smoker in the house and people smoking around me...I am hoping it's the same thing. I know you're supposed to remove temptation but sometimes that's not practical or possible. Right now I have no desire to drink, I know that I have made my decision NOT to drink and I could, at this moment, have people over and make drinks and not have one myself. I have done this before. The problem is what happens when I somehow justify that "oh just one glass of wine won't kill me"...then I'm back on day 1 again...again. My boyfriend would take every drop out of the house for me, never play pool again with the guys, and never relax with a scotch in front of me if I just said the word...but I feel that's so unfair to him, I'm the one with the problem, not him.
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Yes, I agree. Great guy if he's prepared to do that. My partner is the same. I personally think a partner should be prepared to do that if not doing so might compromise the other's sobriety. He's a keeper :-) I'd be tempted to take him up on that too. As teatree says, win-win!
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